I am a 69 year old male who loves his wife. However, like others, we no longer have sex. She has some health issues that discourage her and take away her interest. I recently met a man on-line and talked about this with him as he also no longer has sex with his wife. We talked about meeting and how we would pleasure each other. It could have happened, but I backed out. I think I was wrong to do so, and wonder what I have missed. Both an opportunity for male friendship, and some sexual satisfaction. I masturbate, not regularly, and watch porn. But I want the physical touch of another person. Maybe I can find him again. Steve
“Very much in tune with the author. My wife no longer had any interest in sex – so I too moved on in the same direction. As a result I believe I found my true self.” David
I have found myself in a similar situation, and have searched in vain for that ‘special friend’ in exactly the same situation. Someone to trust, sincere, and open to honest conversation, for close naked encounters every five or six weeks or so, when time allowed, with no worries and fears. Always something to look forward to, and guaranteed mutual sexual relieve. Alas, it seems the many just want the brief casual encounter. – Anon
To Steve who wrote that you feel you were wrong to back out of a sexual encounter with a man – you should not be beating yourself up over this. There are many possible reasons for not going forward and all are valid. For me, it is the fact that having sex with someone outside of my marriage, even with a man, would be cheating. In my perfect world my wife would be accepting, but we don’t always get everything we want.
I am fortunate to still have a satisfying sex life with my wife, and a satisfying solo sex life focused on male to male sexuality.
Love this, I am the same no sex anymore with my wife now for 12 months or more, she has just gone off it. 76 here and wanking nearly everynight, used to meet with a widower naturist friend unfortunately he has moved away through bad health. Sure miss those meets.
Chris
Seb, thank you for posting gorgeous pictures of delicious young men along with gorgeous pictures of us tasty oldies. Mixing images of multiple ages not only represents our bodies in all their ageless, male beauty in one post, it also reminds everyone that often (in my experience) young and old desire one another, not just someone their own age, or the old flabby guy the young stud. . My message to everyone is: KEEP MEETING UP, KEEP LOOKING FOR THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE, DON’T STOP TILL YOU DROP! I date via Planet Romeo, far from ideal. But I’ve met immortality-bestowing, 30-year old gods there who I will never see again; lovely golden oldie 60+ year-old, grandpa deities, who may already have passed away; and those SPECIAL ONES, those ageless DIVINITIES BEYOND COMPARE, who are the loves of my life, with whom I will stay, love forever, wherever I am, until I die. The bottom line is: SEIZE THE DAY!
PS Both my very most SPECIAL ONES are 30 years younger than I am. The term “Daddy” not only suggests something perverted about a relationship between a younger and a very much older man, it also misconstrues the nature of the attraction. Is a vintage wine, incomparably delicious in every respect to a young wine, a “Daddy” wine?! Would a thirsty man of the world, much traveled like Odysseus, turn down, when he finally reaches home, a stimulating encounter with a brash, young wine brimming with future greatness??
AJ, I absolutely love your comparison of men to different kinds of wine, and your evocation of the Odysseus story.
I want to enjoy the vintage wine of the mature man, and the lipsmacking, newer harvest (not too new – I still want wines with some depth of experience and flavour).
Let those who get tickled by the ‘daddy’ notion enjoy that.
I am on a journey, we all are, only some of us will recognise this for what it truly is before they die.
It is the journey home, like Odysseus was journeying home. The home we journey to (if we recognise this) is our true self. It happens later in life, usually.
Odysseus was not truly home until his second journey, after the return to Ithaca and his restoration as king. Then he had to go out again and relinquish everything. The first was a journey of action, adventure and achievement, and his second journey was the wisdom journey. We give, and in so doing we receive, we die, and in so doing we live, we surrender, and in so doing we triumph.
Not every man will be able to grasp this.
Peace.
Amar, thank you for this wonderful and beautiful comment. Our journey continues!
All the above rings so many bells with me. I do have gay friends and we can very occasionally get together for sexual excitement and satisfaction. But these do not fulfill all my frequent sexual desires particularly in the winter months when I cannot get out to the gay beaches and nude walking at cruising spots. I get sex with other men whenever I can and with whoever I team up with. Always good and enjoyable but rarely able to repeat. Having said that, I admit I love to attract men for sex and always aim to give the maximum pleasure. If I had a regular friend, I would surrender my body to him and let him fuck me for my first full fuck and feel him explode in me and his gush of cum inside me. Then to feel it slowly trickling down my thighs over the next hour or two. Wow!
I’m in a similar situation with my partner who is male. He is older than me and, although I am unsure if it is due to mental health issues with him possibly still getting over the loss of his partner some years ago to cancer, or whether it’s more serious than that but I can’t get him to go and see a specialist. He has said to just do what I need to do and I have found some men to enjoy the company of but they were just a quick physical and then I had to go. I want more connection, more touch, more patience and a more lasting experience that can be shared as many times as we want. I really enjoy pleasuring maturer men and always have done. I was 15 when I had my first real encounter with an older man in his 60’s, lovely amount of body and facial hair, I would just rub myself on his naked body and the hair would cause a sensation that would make me ejaculate a lot, sometimes more than once. I would then make sure he was pleasured for however long he needed. There was also another guy in his 80’s that I would see when I was 19, he would have me sit in a chair, then he would stroke my arms and legs gently for a long time, then he would start to tickle other parts of me, from my chin, chest, to my scrotum and my anus. He would get me so calm and then he would spit in his hand, take his cock and wet my ass and his dick, then he would gently ease his way in and say to me “are you ready?”, as I nodded he would penetrate me slowly with the tip of his dick first, then gradually getting deeper and faster. His face would be near mine as I felt every breathe and heard every groan until he climaxed inside me. I would feel it pulsate inside me and hear it drop on the wooden floor as he kept pumping, then he would grab my dick while continuing on probing my prostate and furiously wank me until I exploded with boat of us moaning and then kissing. He was probably the best experience I ever had for as much as I could see him until I moved away.
I would love to give that pleasure to another man. It is difficult to find other men, I know it’s still very taboo to just start talking to guys randomly about sex or experiences they’ve had as many men are quite masculine and think that share pleasure with other men is deemed wrong in their eyes. So unfortunately I haven’t had the chance in quite some years to find any other men to pleasure. I too have a lot of hang ups being on the spectrum, being very anxious and shy, I’m not like I used to be when I was younger. Certainly not body wise and this also gives me a sense of anxiety because I have had quite a number of years of comfort eating and although I’m not overweight, I’m certainly not as healthy looking as many of the images shared on here.
I hope you find the guy you’re with, maybe take your time and have patience with yourself, meet at a bar first and have a few drinks, see where it leads.
I agree with the sentiments expressed here and I too am in the same situation, I still love my wife but miss the intimacy of sexual expression. However, sustaining a long term relationship with a man would be very difficult> I have met with two discreet men and enjoyed both experiences. It’s not easy to reconcile.
No doubt, this is most definitely a desire that constantly torments and tortures. I suppose we want the best of both worlds, or at least we can occasionally delve into the ‘other world’ if the opportunity arises. You have been lucky to meet two discrete men, but how do these meetings cumm about. I have only recently discovered this site, it’s obviously not a contact site, and those actual contact sites seem very, very dubious. Nothing seems to be mentioned on here about the negative sides of such casual meetings. I must add this site does have a very positive air to it, which is very refreshing and most welcome, but there are two sides to every story. Perhaps ‘relationship’ is not quite the right word, more of an ongoing understanding between two beings, looking for the same thing, for deeper exploration and greater fulfilment, in a safe environment, would be a more suitable way of putting in.
I love all the beautiful pictures of very sexy older men, thank you! I was in my 60’s before I took the plunger and acted on my long unexpressed desire to enjoy oral sex with a man. I’ve met many older men who, often through divorce or widowhood, found themselves able to indulge desires that had lingered their whole lives. I have found more emotional and physical satisfaction with other men than I ever imagined, or allowed myself to dream of.
I find men who have crossed over to the other side doubly attractive. Shared orgasms in masturbation, and the deep intimacy of having another man’s cock in my mouth as he orgasms have surpassed anything I’ve ever experienced and moved me to eagerly drink of their cumm. The shared intimacy is truly wonderful and the road to more intimacy is perhaps long and winding but very worth it.
I have been working toward being free of all the “societal” dictums that have been forced on myself and all of us Gods.
It works if you work it Men.
Keep in mind always that “Society” does NOT live our lives for us. We steer our own lives.
We have been indoctrinated into considering what others “think” about us when in reality IT DOES NOT EVER MATTER.
Ever.
We can harness our own minds and control our own minds with effort.
Be who and what you are and DO what makes you feel good, happy or what adjective you prefer.
Peace and love to all my brothers. Every one of us Gods are unique, special, and talented. We have superpower abilities which are a gift from the source of creation. ALL of us. No one has been left out!
Thank You John
I have found myself in a similar situation, and have searched in vain for that ‘special friend’ in exactly the same situation. Someone to trust, sincere, and open to honest conversation, for close naked encounters every five or six weeks or so, when time allowed, with no worries and fears. Always something to look forward to, and guaranteed mutual sexual relieve. Alas, it seems the many just want the brief casual encounter.