This site has opened my mind and helped me connect with a long overdue epiphany of my own. I have lived more or less Amar’s experiences. As him, I can say I have found a safe emotional place. I have recently met a man with whom I have developed a strong emotional connection. We both have families to take care of. We started to get to know each other step by step and just a few days ago he told me “I have found my safe place in you”. That was a powerful statement: I felt leaving behind a chapter of on-line searching to hooking up with an eventual and almost surely short-term sex partner. At a certain point, I realized I needed to take a step forward and accepted that my quest was to find a firm companion to start living my sexuality at its fullest. There are many lessons I have learnt in these last months: my attitudes towards sex can open up ample spaces of wisdom. Or else, I can shut myself in fear, guilt or an insane search of an impossible “somebody”. I can bloom my life into peace and happiness, or I can blame myself and the world for not being complete. I can create a new narrative of my own, leaving behind whatever tag I hanged to myself. I choose my life and I have the obligation to pursue happiness. Life is really short, and prejudices will not open any door. They are locks but me, only me, have the keys to free myself. I’m a man in my late 50’s, married 35+ years to an incredible woman. I have 3 daughters and a grandson. All of them are my joys. And I have a partner with whom I want to explore uncharted territory. My life is complete. – Andreas
Andreas: He leído tu relato y francamente me ha fascinado como un hombre comprometido con su familia, ha encontrado a otro hombre que; con delicadeza de ambas partes, han sabido completar una necesidad personal, tal vez adormecida, por pre conceptos sociales impuestos, y lograr así, cerrar ese círculo de deseos nunca realizados.
Imagino que todo hombre o mujer, en algún momento de su vida, pasa por este pensamiento, que implicaría un cambio copernicano en su vida realizada. Por lo que cuentas, tu lo has logrado cumplir un deseo muchas veces postergado, en paz y confidencialidad, en la que no es necesario tal vez difundir al resto de nuestros seres queridos, y que en una de esas, no están en condiciones de aceptar nuestro cambio, sin alterarse. Te felicito y te envidio sanamente el nuevo curso de tu vida…
Andreas: I have read your story and frankly it has fascinated me as a man committed to his family, has found another man who; With delicacy on both sides, they have been able to complete a personal need, perhaps dormant, due to imposed social preconceptions, and thus achieve closing that circle of never-fulfilled desires.
I imagine that every man or woman, at some point in their life, goes through this thought, which would imply a Copernican change in their fulfilled life. From what you say, you have managed to fulfill a wish that has been postponed many times, in peace and confidentiality, in which it is not necessary to spread it to the rest of our loved ones, and that in one of those times, they are not in a position to accept our change, without altering. I congratulate you and I envy you the new course of your life…
I love this story!
There is no “gay” or “straight” these terms were invented by Christian nations using sexuality to control people with guilt and shame and FEAR!
We need to teach our brothers that this homophobia has to end. Today. Now. All we have to do is keep on speaking our truth. Just like this story. Thank you.
How true,brother! United we stand!
Thank you very much for these wise words!
I have been following your site for more than 20 years, that is my favourite post ever, thank you, to you Mr Cox, Andreas, and all the brotherhood. It’s amazing to read about other men who are loving and kind, especially when it comes to sex
That’s so awesome! Glad for you! These pictures and videos are a turn on for this posting. Very sexy.
Bless you, brother. Wonderful to read you’ve found your safe place.
I too found this site to be very fulfilling. From seeing all the beautiful hung men, their beautiful cocks, which ( are there any guys on here with normal cocks like mine, not hard in thepictureon purpose) to the great articles. My cock stays hard constantly. Frequently jerking off as I look and read. I’ve become so enlightened and accepting of myself and the sexual pleasure I get from being with other naked men as we pleasure each other, enjoying each other’s cocks. Thanks for this site. Would like to see more average cocks. It is a bit intimidating even though I love looking at a nice, big cock. Love them all. Hugs, Don
I do not wish to rain upon your parade, One (I) can only hope your idea of a “perfect” life is realized. Alas, and I say this because I am near to being 80 years old and have seen this scenario come to naught with some of my friends. Does any of your family… wife, daughter, grandson, etc. know what is entailed in gay sexual behavior between two gay men? “And I have a partner with whom I want to explore uncharted territory. My life is complete.” Yes, it IS uncharted, and, “there’s many a slip ‘twixt the cup and the lip.” Does your wife understand what gay sex entails, what having anal sex is about, what fellatio means, and swallowing another man’s semen? The list of our needs to be fulfilled in our sexual life often comes down to deciding which is more important in the end — our sexual needs, a life with another Gay Man who knows what gay life between two men is really all about, OR remaining with the wife who has fulfilled his needs over the years and sees that her husband’s needs can only be filled by being with another Gay Man and living an “out” gay life! You must decide before entering into 2 separate and not necessarily equal lives.
MUST one decide, R + A?
That’s the whole point of Andreas’ post. In his “perfect” life there will be always room for guilt to re-appear every now and then. But some of us have decided to live with it, and enjoy our families AND sexual intimacy with a special male partner. To me It is not only possible, but healthy.
Wish you the best!
I too live a double life. My family does not know of my craving for cock. I’m very discreet and I spend a lot of time jerking off, like now. I tried to resist my urges but alas, I finally gave in. Sucking another man’s cock gives me immense pleasure. Swallowing his warm load is my reward. I have two friends that I meet with at their homes on a regular basis. Making out, kissing, sucking each other slowly and caressingly, we take our time. Never in a hurry to cum. I do have a special theater that I frequent and have regulars who love my oral talents. On a good day I can suck 5 cocks.
So, yes, I have the best of both worlds. I live to jerk off and suck cock. Only my male friends know. Thank you all for sharing your thoughts, posts and mostly your beautiful cocks. Hugs, Don