To Steve who wrote that you feel you were wrong to back out of a sexual encounter with a man – you should not be beating yourself up over this. There are many possible reasons for not going forward and all are valid. For me, it is the fact that having sex with someone outside of my marriage, even with a man, would be cheating. In my perfect world my wife would be accepting, but we don’t always get everything we want. I am fortunate to still have a satisfying sex life with my wife, and a satisfying solo sex life focused on male to male sexuality. – Phalluster