In 2015, University of California, gender and sexuality professor Jane Ward published a book called “Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men.” In it, Ward discussed what she called “straight homosexual sex” in frat houses, barracks and biker gangs, as well as more mundane settings like suburban cul-de-sacs. Ward illustrates that sex between straight white men allows them to leverage whiteness and masculinity to authenticate their heterosexuality in the context of sex with men. These sex acts are not slippages into a queer way of being or expressions of a desired but unarticulated gay identity. Instead, Ward argues, they reveal the fluidity and complexity that characterizes all human sexual desire. In the end, Ward’s analysis offers a new way to think about heterosexuality—not as the opposite or absence of homosexuality, but as its own unique mode of engaging in homosexual sex, a mode characterized by pretense, dis-identification and racial and heterosexual privilege. If you can get a straight man to talk to you about why he is having sex with men, it’s very likely that he’s going to draw from a small set of acceptable narratives about why straight men do things like that, and I think that’s a really common one, you know, the narrative of constraint — ‘Well, I’d rather be having sex with a woman, but there are no women available,’ or ‘Women are too complicated’ — this kind of thing. But I don’t buy that,” she said in a recent New York magazine interview. “Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men”
I always find the focus on white men interesting. Apparently other straight guys jerking each other off is not newsworthy? My theory is, it’s about deconstructing a political myth: Rural white guys lean to the right. Rich people also lean to the right, actually farther than l, but in America, our pundits deny that rich people vote for the party of rich people. – Jon
Aww I would love to experience a friendly, relaxed circle jerk with a bunch of good buddies in a healthy, unseedy setting. Watching each other stroke, encouraging and commenting on the beauty of our cocks and the mastery of our techniques, perhaps helping each other out, perhaps getting very steamy and sucking cocks and slurping up each other’s cum.
This homosocialsexuality is a rare thing in our society. I’m sure it exists in pockets, but I have yet to experience it.
Amar—You are such a strong homosexual man! The strength of your desires that you display of man to man are breathtaking!! Thank you for stimulating me toward me having an ultimate orgasm that I would like to dedicate to you!!
I never realized how prevalent homosexuality really is until I, myself, sucked my first dick in an adult store! I loved the erotic feeling it game me. As I continued to suck dick I discovered a lot of married men suck dicks! And a lot of people I know suck dicks lol! I never knew friends and co workers were cock sucker until to happen to see them at xxx stores or cruising area where you “discover” your common interest! Even my massage guy turned out to be a cock sucker on the down low just like me! Nice discovery!
I love these videos by 808spelunk:
“MEN Are ONE: How Reductionist Sexual Identities Undermine American Men Post-1940s (History + Photos)”
In many ways, our grandfathers lived healthier lives than we did with regards to masculine sexuality.
Homophobia is worse now than in the 1940s!
I think there’s a little homosexuality in all of us.
So, so tired of labels.
There are two reasons to have sex with a woman. 1) Procreation, 2) Biological geas (the parts fit correctly).
There are two reasons to have sex with (another) man. 1) Woman not available, 2) Pleasure.
Love these photos.
Awh, sex with a women can be great, but can be so cumbersome to get there; a bf on the other hand 😉
Heterosexual men who embrace homosexual expression come to it for more than one reason. I am in a subset of such people as I am married and love my wife dearly. My involvement or consideration of men began with an unsolicited dream that made me rock hard. However, there was more to it than just a dream. I was /am in a marriage where heterosexual expression of sex has died.
It is my experience from visiting gay chat rooms that there are many other married men who have sought sexual expression through engaging with men. This may sound disingenuous but it is not. It can be born out of frustration but to say that, is to over-simplify the scenario of which I am part,
I have now met with a few men. Each time I Have met with someone it has been a little bit different. Each time it was pleasureable for both of us, as we had chatted about expectations befpre meeting,
One time was counter to what I am saying as on that occasion I visited a gay sauna for the first time, not knowing who might befriend me there, It was scary but pleasurable.
There a plethora of examples of why it is that heterosexual men embrace homosexual activity. Ian
Those pundits are correct, and incorrect at the same time.. There are many people of the left, who vote for leftist- and even want socialism… They are rich, and usually celebs. The funny thing about it though, is voting for government, you’re actually hurting yourself, and aiding the elites. Government is expensive, the more of it you have, the more taxes you are going to pay, the more taxes you have to pay, means less money for you, things get harder, and you eventually become stuck economically- a slave.
In the United States, and in New York especially- we have MASSIVE government. The police are in the faces of the people more, as more laws come with more government, and police are giving out tickets for everything! The state needs the money to continue to support the massive government.. All of this doesn’t hurt rich people.. Rich people can afford to pay the many silly fines, rich people can afford the rising cost of living.. Rich people who get really tired of the high taxes, can pick up and leave.. No it doesn’t bother them, it greatly hinders however the little guy, the guy trying to make it, and its getting harder.. So this is why I find those who support politicians who favor massive government, to be idiots.. You’re hurting yourself, and aiding elites.
Those on the right, the ones who actually do believe in limited government, and personal responsibility, ect.. They are more about creating prosperity, by allowing the market (people) to control it, and largely keep what they earn.. They believe government has its role, it isn’t evil.. But when it becomes too big, it like a fire can and will become dangerous, and destructive.
It is a mixed bag on who supports either side.. There are rich who support the left, and rich who support the right.. Those on the left tend to do it because they either feel guilty about their own wealth (which is foolish, unless they did evil things to attain it), and so instead of willingly pay more taxes themselves if they believe in that.. They believe we all should, which again only makes things difficult for the little guy, not the rich guy.
The rich who tend to support the right, tend to believe in the results, facts, facts, facts, and common sense, is what they care about it.. They see the ideas of limited government, which brings about lower taxes, and more employment for people- equals prosperity.. They tend to have a much greater understanding of the economy, than some silly twit celeb, or phony politician, both of which run on feelings, and not facts.
James you’ve pretty much nailed it there.
Another way to look at it is that taxes pay for stuff that can everyone. If the poor get good health care, they don’t miss work, and when the rich get highways, they can move stuff around and make money. When the DA in New York prosecutes business fraud, which they do excellently and continuously, New York is seen as a safe place to do business–money flows in to fuel the business economy.
When the air is clean, everybody wins. When rich people think they can buy immunity from disease, foul air and the criminal system, or think they don’t need roads or air traffic controllers or a good labor force, all that expense looks like it’s only *hurting* them; they have less to spend on yachts and can’t buy their way out of trouble with hospitals, judges, politicians and gated enclaves. Rich people always oppose taxes because they are under the delusion that they don’t need the things government provides and that poor people don’t deserve to have any of the fruits of success. They don’t understand that a rising tide raises all boats; they look around and all they see are yachts.
When poor people get too desperate and feel powerless they can cause big trouble, to themselves and others. They have this crazy idea that they should have a piece of the pie, and if they did, they could make life better. Working moms with child care can work better, and the kids are fed, play games with others, and have healthier physical and mental development. They do well in school, and can get a job making some rich guy richer. It’s win/win. American prosperity has been based on on a strong, well educated and well paid labor force. That’s not gonna happen when the rich folks are trying to squeeze the little guy for all he’s worth or if we create a huge underclass to drag society down. When government moderates the economy, curbing the excesses of the rich and providing for the poor with a leg up, the whole country does well; that’s a fact that the smart rich understand, but rich folks in their bubble can’t see.
But to get back on topic, white guys have a quandary: they don’t want to lose their privilege by appearing too homosexual–but they have desires and affections that don’t match up with their “lifestyle”. They want to suck cock. So they (I should say “we”) watch beautiful hetero porn with hands on each others’ cocks. As Ward said, it is “not….the opposite or absence of homosexuality, but….its own unique mode of engaging in homosexual sex, a mode characterized by pretense, dis-identification and racial and heterosexual privilege.” What is lost is intimacy and a deeper bonding that comes with being “out”.
James, thank you.
Life long “D” in USA here till recently.
I encourage everyone to do their own research to find the truth, think for yourself using your God given critical thinking skills, and NEVER take the bs streams word for anything.
It NEVER lives on any mainstream USA “media” outlet.
That is government sponsored propaganda made legal by revision, under Obama in 2012, of the 1947 Smith- Mundt act which originally forbid gov sponsored propaganda. Now it is legal in USA since 2013, for the government to propagandize USA citizens. Propaganda plays on human emotions.
Do not react Men Gods.
Instead, intelligently respond in life.
Your soul will be much more free I promise. The “D”s have been taken over and possessed by the big pharma, big food, big AG, Big oil/gas and the military industrial complex.
They are panicking now.
“Progressive ” policies do not work.
We have a uni-party that agrees on 85%, wants everyone to think they are “divided” with their lies.
Once we elect a true independent, the uniparty is finished. They know this.
What we are witnessing before our eyes for many years now is the resistance of untethered regulatory and agency federal employees who do what they want. 2 millions fed employees and something like another 8 million federal contractors.
Many have been eliminated thank God.
They steal our tax money.
Many are having their come to Jesus moments right now.
Money and power corrupt human beings.