In recent years, there has been a noticeable shift in the dynamics of male friendships. Traditional stereotypes of masculinity have long dictated that men should keep emotional distance and refrain from forming deep, intimate bonds with each other. However, an evolving societal landscape, marked by a decline in homophobia and a greater acceptance of diverse expressions of masculinity, has given rise to the “bromance.” These close, platonic relationships between straight young men challenge long-held norms and highlight the importance of male friendship in today’s world. Historically, societal expectations surrounding masculinity often discouraged men from forming deep, emotionally open connections with one another. The fear of being perceived as weak or unmanly often prevented men from fully exploring their emotional landscapes or seeking emotional support from their peers. Homophobia, too, played a significant role in policing the boundaries of male friendship, as men were often concerned about being seen as “too close” or having their relationships misconstrued.
One of the primary factors contributing to the rise of the bromance is the decline in homophobia. Over the past few decades, Western societies have become increasingly accepting and supportive. This cultural shift has created a more inclusive environment where straight men feel less threatened or stigmatized by forming close bonds with their male friends. The bromance phenomenon is also closely tied to the changing attitudes toward emotional expression in men. The stigma around displaying vulnerability and emotions has been gradually eroding, with an increasing number of men embracing emotional openness and seeking support from their friends. In the modern world, it is no longer seen as a sign of weakness for men to share their feelings, making it easier for them to form deep connections. Bromances offer a plethora of benefits to those who participate in them. These close friendships provide emotional support, intimacy, and a sense of security that can be vital for mental and emotional well-being. With the decline in homophobia, men are free to express their affection for one another without fear of judgment or prejudice. The rise of the bromance is not only challenging traditional notions of male friendship but also expanding the scope of what it means to be a friend. These bonds transcend gender, allowing individuals to form intimate connections regardless of their sexual orientation. It’s a testament to the evolving concept of friendship, which is no longer confined to narrow stereotypes.
There’s not much I can ad to this commentary; it presents a thorough overview of relationships between men and society’s expectations of same.
These “expectations” of what is appropriate for male social interaction were born out of a great subliminal fear of homosexuality which was taught by the Christian Church, from centuries back. Many people knew better, having garnered the knowledge of male/male relationships from older family members, stories of “how it once was” or, if fortunate enough to be somewhat literate, were able to actually read the stories of people and events from the past. That would have been a very minimal number of people who knew the truth but could not speak it, lest the Establishment and Morality Police (read “clergy”) discover them. To a degree, it was more about control of the masses than any sort of moral concern. Just check out Iran to see control on steroids.
So this societal construct was enforced. The down side of this edict was that the men who wielded the power were completely oblivious to the absolute necessity for men to maintain close emotional connections with their fellow men, one of the reasons for the great successes of Roman society. Men have always needed close male/male relationships and they always will.
I’m presently reading a book about exactly that, entitled “Secret Ritual and Manhood in Victorian America” by Mark Carnes. He discusses the rituals that early man developed to mark the passage a boy must take to achieve manhood. Regardless of which society, it was never easy, but it was necessary, essential to each man’s growth. Where are these tests of a man’s mettle today? Exactly. Me either. There have been a few timid attempts, but 21st century society insisting all things must be equal when , clearly, they are not, has disallowed any such men’s groups. Gawd, you can’t even take a piss anymore without wondering who you may be in a pissing contest with. Don’t get me wrong, I think so many well-intentioned, wonderful ideas were scuppered by figuratively throwing the baby out with the bath water. Patience and moderation are not found in any current dialogue.
Lastly, ( I’m almost done here!) news out of Washington does not look good for the LGBT+ community. The new Speaker of the House is, how can I put it… an extremist whack job, even by Republican standards. Not to put too fine a point on it, of course. Commentators and journalists have reviewed his policy proposals. America will not survive if the American people don’t stop drinking the Kool-Aid and start paying attention. And neither will the rest of the world.
He plans to allow people to be fired and evicted for being gay. The plan is to make gay illegal, with fines and imprisonment. Think Iran again… He also plans to eviscerate the entire Social Security system that the entire working class and middle class depend on, creating lifelong misery like you’ve never seen. The US will be a third world nation. Please! Do the research yourself. I’m sorry I was so long-winded but this aspect of men has not been addressed. It must be, for everyone’s sake. And I pray I’m wrong about the Speaker and that what I heard was misinformation. God Save America.
-a Canadian
I love watching nude men wrestling and pictures of them. It is a true sport. no fancy gear or clothes just their naked bodies, strength and brains. Beautifully erotic and sexual
Fantastic Art!
Their is so true and beautiful
The old ways of thinking or conduct are evolving and that’s good. Men need more depths in male friendships. They also need more physical contact without stigma. Iam a gay man and gay men have embraced deeper friendships and physical contact.
If you like to see two naked guys wresting then watch the movie, Women in Love starring the lovely Alan Bates Oliver Reed – don’t be putt off by the title as there is some great cock enhancing moments in it.
Agree and would love photos of straight / gay bromance couples!