I Am A Wanker

Don’t get me wrong I like all the spectrum of gay sex but the label never felt totally honest to me. Yet despite that if I encountered men who wanted to focus on wanking in bars and clubs back in the day well, I found it odd that they were there. I was so unknowing! Discovering the online masturbation scene was like a further light bulb moment for me. I realised that I was a wanker. That was my sexuality. And having that revelation has made it easier for me to be confident in myself around men traditionally defined as ‘straight’ and I have found it easier to develop friendships with them whereas before I would feel more intimidated by them and would not be emotionally honest with them. It wasn’t a case of ‘gay shame’ or anything but just feel that now I have soooo much more in common with them and that is that ALL sensual men masturbate and if we could just be blatantly open with each other about it then so many barriers would come down. We’d certainly all be able to just fuckin bond over the energy of the joy of our own rod in our own hands and look each other in the eye and goad each other on and witness each other and expose our shared experience to one another. Wank bliss. -Michael

I love how you said the above. Wanking is your sexuality… great way to put it.- Mine too! While sharing sex with others can be incredible, I totally look forward to “me time” I hit my spots every time. I never disappoint. It’s the safest approach and requires no emotional investment. If anybody gets lonely, remember this- Once you are totally with “yourself” you are never alone! As far as orientation is concerned, you hit the nail on the head; lets be open and share! Wank on!! – Usfefan

I am what I am. I accept it as it is. I am solosexual, a wanker, a jerk, a high-fiver, a masturbator. My sensuality is expressed in a manner which suits me well and works in my couple too. I am in a good, mutually respectful relationship and my sexual desires as well as fantasies are met by my hand grabbing my hard cock, as well as by some toys that i occasionally use to vary the sensation on my genitals. I wank daily and I feel serenity in my life. I would not want to change it. – Seb Solosexual