I have always found that to be the case. There are times when you just want him to relax but the bugger won’t cooperate, despite your efforts. And often, when you want him at attention, he’s too damn tired! I don’t force him anymore. I just follow his lead. I call it the “wisdom of the cock”. Clearly, he knows something that I don’t. I have had some dudes pissed that I’m there but won’t force the Leviathan into action. (I enjoy irony as a type of humour.) I recently read a very informative book entitled “A Mind of its Own” which documents the relationship that men have had with their penis over the centuries. We may have a difficult time with them, it’s nothing compared to the wardrobe malfunctions that guys had before pants were invented! You might like the appearance of codpieces, but some of the tales from that era…..!!!! Odds bodkins!! – Leo