Took me a while to get to doing this. I like the honesty. We are there for the same thing. Usually no words, just nods and in for a handy shandy and one bends down for a suck. In bushes at parks or in the gents. Surprising what a cross section of blokes are into it and not what one would expect. I’m bi and married so I don’t want an STD, but have always found men very respectful of my limits and boundaries. What’s nice is the appreciative good natured thanks after. Gentlemanly behaviour is what I have experienced – brotherly appreciation and helping each other out, then zip it up and on our way to get on with the day. Business like and non judgemental. Masculine. – BoB
I am 76 and have had sex in mostly gay saunas all over the US and Europe with hundreds of men who are kind, gentle, and just as human as I am. The gross injustice that accompanies our desires and normal needs is a human tragedy largely ignored by all but us. I am thankful to every man who ever sucked my dick or got me off as I am for every man who let me touch or suck their dicks, kiss them, or play with their nipples or butt holes. – Carl Boege
I stepped into the only gay bar in town looking to find my self 1980 sitting on the stool I felt calm .
Yes. We competitive men who make war and fight, who rape, pillage and burn. Our toxic breed who shoots our violent seed to all the corners of the world also finds peace in a mutual handy. A gentle cup of his balls, a rub and tug of his tadger, he of mine. Cooperation. It’s amazing that moment of entente, of mutual respect and acceptance of our similarity in that moment just after we both cum. When we meet eyes and nod before we each go our own way.
The utter desperate urgency of needing to cum though which few if any thoughts can dissuade and move aside our preoccupation for sex contrasts with that moment of silent peace and rest having just done so.