If I Need A Label?

I am bisexual and I fully embrace it. I have known it and enjoyed sex with both men and women since I was a teen. I have found that I need both to be a whole sexual being. Between the breakup of my prior marriage and meeting my current wife, I dated a lot of women and a couple men. One man in particular touched my heart and, much to my surprise, we were involved in a gay relationship for a few months. Was I finally realizing that I was gay and not bi? Ultimately, no, but it was an incredible and awakening experience. If I need a label, I am a bisexual man, happily married to a beautiful, sexy woman. Joseph

In my decades on the planet…reading stories, hearing stories, personal experience …I believe sexuality is a spectrum and all human beings fall somewhere on that spectrum. on one end, you have those who enjoy sex with a partner of the opposite gender. On the other end, those who enjoy sex with the same-sex gender. Most humans fall somewhere in between. They like sex and engage in it to satisfy their need. No labels needed. In my opinion, when you put a label on something -people, cans, boxes etc, you add the element of judgment.. big, tall, sweet, unsweetened, no fat, 2%, fat, gay, straight, bi etc. When it comes to human beings, that ’judgment can limit some people -men and women – from engaging in something that may enjoy for fear of being labeled or judged. Notice today we have added the term ‘bromance.’ to our list of (labels.) That seems to be a ‘safe’ place that encompasses different levels of friendships or connections. I believe this is especially evident in younger men who are still developing and experimenting with different connections in an attempt to decide who they are, and where they fit. ‘Bromance’ takes the sting out of being labeled, gay, straight bi or whatever.. Maybe one day – in a perfect world – we can exist on that spectrum and engage in whatever form of sexuality we need or want at any particular time of our lives. – Phill S