I reckon that everybody is different and that they can decide for themselves how they want to label themselves (if they do!). Sexuality is complex and people don’t necessarily fit into neat little boxes. It’s fine if you feel like you do, but not everyone does. Life isn’t black and white for all of us. One of my favourite things about this site is exactly what you dislike – why should Seb or you or I or anyone speak for others – to tell them who or what they really are? How can anyone say that for anyone else? Who decides what the truth of someone else is? – Jamie