During a general conversation, an openly homosexual friend mentioned having been born gay, unfortunately. Although he quickly corrected himself, his Freudian slip of “unfortunately” is troubling. Personally, I am glad to have been born gay. If reincarnation is a reality, I hope that I come back as a homosexual man in my next life. Out of curiosity, I once did a past-life visualisation exercise through which I saw images of myself as a Roman solider who was in a homosexual relationship with a fellow solider. If I were to come back again, I am not that bothered about which ethnicity or nation becomes my new home, as long as I am consciously aware and able to express my homosexuality (obviously, I’d rather avoid one of the countries or cultures where homosexuality is still criminalised or actively repressed). I can’t imagine my life without the pleasure of sex with other men. Meanwhile, my friend’s Freudian slip calls for some deep self-analysis! HugH
Born gay ‘unfortunately’…….. Oh dear, that was an ‘unfortunate’ slip of the tongue. I was born gay and there was never any real question about it. OK, in my mid-teens I made half-hearted attempts towards having a girl friend but this never went anywhere and when one girl actually expressed interest I was deeply thankful that I’d already made plans to go and live in London. I realised how easily one could get caught up in something one really didn’t want. So I am grateful that I never had to endure the angst and other issues that so many gay men and women have had to face when coming to terms with their real sexuality. In my opinion there is no ‘unfortunate’ about it, unless one feels that one has missed out or is actually not wholly comfortable with their lives.
He probably simply meant that it has not made his life easier. Minority stress is real, as is discrimination.
Or, do we absorb the negativity from “society”,
Or, do we ignore the negativity, live our lives as ourselves and not give a rip.
Just saying.
Peace brother.
Yes, I can imagine a proud Black woman, or simply a woman, no matter how proud, having the same sentiment–it’s a statement of condition, not worth.