I am a happily married man of 55 years. My wife and I have three grown children. We no longer engage in intercourse or any kind of sex. It seems, looking back, after our third child, our sex faded away. I have always wanted to have a good sexual relationship but my wife never caught the bait. So be it. I moved on. One day I was leaving downtown Minneapolis; it started rain heavily. I ducked into a hotel bar and decided to just relax with a scotch and wait out the weather. I sat at the end which seated one around the corner place. A few minutes later, a gentleman looking about my age, came in and sat at the seat next to mine. We were in a 90 degree position to one another. The conversation was as if we had known each other all our lives. It was enjoyable. I had never had a male relationship so easily encountered. After a couple of drinks, he asked if I would like to go to his room and continue our conversation there. I agreed and as soon as we entered the room we looked at each other, put out or arms and melted. It was the most enjoyable sex I have ever had and I realized what I had been missing was men know how to have sex with men. He has since come to Mpls and each time we meet. I love it and I’ve learned, I’m a bottom. Oz
Oz, I am thrilled that you discovered this in yourself, but mourn that it took so many years. Like you I am happily married. I am now 67 and still have a great sex life with my wife. I have also lived a hidden bisexual life since I was 15, a part of my life that is extremely important to me, to my wellbeing and to myself a a “whole” being. For many years my work has occasionally had me traveling and there have been many meals and cocktails at hotel bars. There have been nights sitting alone as well as nights enjoying random conversations with fellow travelers, both male and female. I admit without blushing that those conversations sometimes resulted in a trip to someone’s room to share a sexual encounter, a night of lust. Amazingly those “one-night-stands” sometimes grew to a friendship or relationship of convenience and paths sometimes re-crossed. Those are blissful times. Other such nights ended in forgotten names after uncomfortable goodbyes. Those can be blissful as well, having served their purpose, we move on. Like you, I feel that men know how to please men better than women do. Also like you, I am a bottom, and I have come to genuinely feel that is my place, serving, giving pleasure, receiving a man into my eager mouth or wanting bottom and taking his living seed into me. There are a couple men who I have reconnected with on the road. There are some whose names are forgotten, but I walked away with the satisfaction that a living part of them came with me. – Joseph
So many similar stories of happily married men who no longer have sex with their wives. My story also. We are 70, and best friends, and have a wonderful family and married life together, apart from sex. It was perhaps ten years ago, or so, that I discovered the joys of edging masturbation. Our routines allow me several hours each day to enjoy the sublime bliss of massaging my cock to the edge. The cellphone provides ample ‘bate fuel’, (I enjoy straight and gay porn). I usually postpone orgasm for weeks, looking forward to tomorrow’s pleasures. Just adding my situation to show how common it is, and to give thanks to this site and others (Bateworld, Reddit, etc.) that enhance our understanding that we’re not alone or unusual.
Iam 71 retired and live in Dallas Texas.I was married but found out l liked topping real men. Would love to have some regulars that are clean, married or single men who consider themselves str8.
I am a 69 year old male wo loves his wife. However, like others, we no longer have sex. She has some health issues that discourage her and take away her interest. I recently met a man on-line and talked about this with him as he also no longer has sex with his wife. We talked about meeting and how we would pleasure each other. It could have happened, but I backed out. I think I was wrong to do so, and wonder what I have missed. Both an opportunity for male friendship, and some sexual satisfaction. I masturbate, not regularly, and watch porn. But I want the physical touch of another person.
Maybe I can find him again.
Thank You, Steve
I am a happily married man in the exact same situation! When we had four children, my wife lost her desire for sex.
I have always masturbated and curiously studied porn.
My wife is very jealous when I, for example, talking about my female colleagues. So I didn’t see the idea of a girlfriend as an option. Some will probably consider me unfaithful, but I have found some men that I visit. My wife knows nothing and I am not nervous about being discovered. No one knows that I have great sex with my new malefriends.
Oz,
I am thrilled that you discovered this in yourself, but mourn that it took so many years. Like you I am happily married. I am now 67 and still have a great sex life with my wife. I have also lived a hidden bisexual life since I was 15, a part of my life that is extremely important to me, to my wellbeing and to myself a a “whole” being. For many years my work has occasionally had me traveling and there have been many meals and cocktails at hotel bars. There have been nights sitting alone as well as nights enjoying random conversations with fellow travelers, both male and female. I admit without blushing that those conversations sometimes resulted in a trip to someone’s room to share a sexual encounter, a night of lust. Amazingly those “one-night-stands” sometimes grew to a friendship or relationship of convenience and paths sometimes re-crossed. Those are blissful times. Other such nights ended in forgotten names after uncomfortable goodbyes. Those can be blissful as well, having served their purpose, we move on.
Like you, I feel that men know how to please men better than women do. Also like you, I am a bottom, and I have come to genuinely feel that is my place, serving, giving pleasure, receiving a man into my eager mouth or wanting bottom and taking his living seed into me. There are a couple men who I have reconnected with on the road. There are some whose names are forgotten, but I walked away with the satisfaction that a living part of them came with me.
I completely agree with this post. It’s a lovely story and perfectly describe where I am. I’m married but the relationship between my wife and I can only be described as platonic. I miss the physical contact with someone else. I have discovered this pleasure in meeting with other men who understand what I want. At the same time, I love being able to satisfy another man’s need for sexual pleasure. I want to continue meeting other men and experience the joy of this sexual contact.
Great story and I hear it from so many men I have met at Gay Father’s organizations. Be happy in finding this male bonding!
very nice story; one nice way to enjoy m2m fun
Very much in tune with the author.
My wife no longer had any interest in sex – so I too moved on in the same direction. As a result I believe found my true self.
I remember the first time I hooked up with a mature married man. I was 40 he was 69. It was remarkable!
I’m now in the “mature” category and often have m2m contact. I look at your post and the fact that you had sex with an older man when you were 40. I wish I’d had the courage to do this when I was that age. I have had sex with a few men in their early forties and it has been wonderful. On behalf of us older guys, thank you for reaching out. It sounds like it was an experience of mutual pleasure.