I have seen the king with a face of Glory, He who is the eye and the sun of heaven, He who is the companion and healer of all beings, He who is the soul and the universe that births souls. Rumi
I am not gay and I am not sexually attracted to men. I love women, but I have a foot fetish. Especially with barefeet!!! This fetish works with both female and male, but I prefer male feet. Just to look at mens feet arouses me. Obviously, the notion that only gay men can be into anything associated with other men is NOT true. I read this somewhere else too. I like to take the foot and put it upon my cock and do ‘pedal pumping’. I only look at pictures of feet now, because I don’t hang with any gays, and don’t care for anything but what I just mentioned. I did have one friend who was adventurous, and he let me do it. It was great! Otherwise, I have no desire at all for men. Male nudity, or sex is unacceptable. In fact, it ruins the fetish. For anything else, I only like women. I wonder if I am alone with this? Anon
With the exception of Rugby, it’s hard to imagine any other sport more associated with homosexuality than wrestling. It’s sexy pinning combinations, makes it a source of great erotic delight for many men. I have a mate that is addicted to wanking while he watches his wrestling videos, or his pornography, as he calls it
I was in my mid-20s. I was one of a group of ten guys who got together for a Saturday night of wrestling in the basement gym of one of them. We all stripped down to jockstraps, paired off according to who most closely matched in size, weight, etc., and then wrestled two at a time with the others watching. The rule was that winner would fuck the loser up the ass and the loser would jerk off, while all the others watched. I won my bout (which was the fourth one of the night), fucked the other guy good, and then let him jerk off on my hairy chest. Hottest damn night of sex in my life! Dan
Wrestling with another guy — a total stranger whom I’ve never met before — with us both stripped down to nothing but our jockstraps. Winner fucks the loser up the ass with the both of us still wearing our jocks. It would be even better if there were some other jockstrapped guys there watching us, too. Hank
If you cannot accept every tiny bit of your sexuality, you will never discover your true spirituality. Your sexuality leads to discovering your Spirituality. As men we must present ourselves in both our sexual and our spiritual selves. At the same time we must remain conscious that our spirituality expands and will one day make contact with the entire universe. While our sexual self is limited, our spiritual capacity is utterly vast. Sexually we reach only a few people, while our feelings and especially our thoughts (spirituality) are capable of reaching all. Connecting our spiritual and sexual thoughts is far more powerful and embraces infinitely more, it is also more subtle and has greater possibilities, allowing us to do dream any dream that we want. One day, however, after numerous incarnations and immense spiritual work, our spiritual will activate our sexual instantaneously. As g(o)d’s men we have to learn how to connect our sexual pleasures to our spirituality. We need to be taught this skill; we need guides to show us how. If we don’t our spirituality gets made up for us by other people, and our sexual pleasures are far too fucking sacred for us to allow that do happen. I’m older than you, this is wisdom speaking.
Dear Mr Cox, One of the most important things which happened in the last times, has been knowing about you. Always wanted to know if sex could be spiritual, if souls can make love… if pleasure could be enjoyed in a less instinctive way. Know I know it’s not a dream… you exist! Thanks for sharing so many things with us through your website. It’s incredible. However my dream will become someday truth when I meet you. I’d like to talk about so many things with you. Have you thought about having disciples? somebody hungry of knowledge, willing to learn from zero that sex is not what most people think and make? I guess I can have an appointment with you, as an introductory session, just for asking things and let you diagnose all the expectation and “training” I could need in order to enjoy sex in this tantric way… I guess I’ll be able to do it… me and my partner… I just relocated from France. At the moment I have other priorities while I settle down, but I’m sure I’ll have the honour and pleasure to meet you and realize that what I always dreamt can be true: you exist! and as far as I know you’re the only one, the best one, unique. I recently subscribed to your mailing list, and I’m so pleased that you have new plans and projects. Perhaps I arrived late unfortunately I was not here years ago… but never is late for tantra sex, for a new perspective, for a full experience. Again, Seb, thanks for your work and dedication. Thanks for your website. Thanks for being you. A big hug and all my respect…
Real divinity cannot be separated from real physicality. Marco del rey explains, as I dont believe there is such a thing as an eternal soul separate from the body then divinity and sexuality and physical intimacy are the same and interchangeable, the real trinity of love.
Just wanted to say that I like you new and ever expanding website. I know you said a year ago that you had lost the old one in the expanse of the universe…….but you have rebuilt it and it looks different, a little less black background but a lot of good stories and information and every link still leads to a new and exciting place, like a sex maze. Its obviously by you but its a different shape. It must have been a lot of hard work. I have a question, well more of a thought…..as I grow older I find that I dont want to have full on sex with men and dont….but I do want to be intimate, touching massage, working on each others jade stem…of course, which is what we do with you and thank the gods for you, you have given me a safe and nurturing place to find such amazing male intimacy. You have provided a great and safe gift for all men. when i was younger I cruised areas when I was horny, not a safe option. I have used sex lines but they are expensive and again just about raw sex or pure fantasy and not a safe option nor a wise one.
Sometimes i want touch and intimacy with men more often that once a month in Mr Cox`s palace of dreams and pleasure. I have visited (a place) once and its a real sex place, not very intimate or friendly and lots of unsafe sex happens and older guys like me, are not really that welcome. I stayed 20 minutes and left. I have stopped watching porn, because your groups have taught me to be more real about sex, so as I am watching porn less my desire for real intimacy is returning and so I have greater need. Plus with no porn I have started to have really hot dreams, which I have not had for years….amazing. I have put `jerk off/ masturbation groups for men` into search engines, I think they exist in fantasy but not in reality. Maybe San Francisco was the only place they actually happened as a reaction to AIDS…who knows. I also like the `no lips below the hips` idea, even though oral sex is amazing it can be intimidating if expected. Gay Sex groups/leather clubs and the like push away str8/bi/health conscious gay males because of their expectation of full sex or the risk of STIs and the expectation of a young body and a hard cock, and also the big performance thing hides a million anxieties. I dont want to take viagra,
I would rather have a head massage. apart from your wonderful group are there groups of guys who meet to touch and wank and relax in the safety of a private home or is this an urban myth…it might be just you? Perhaps the sauna scene is where such intimacy happens, I dont really know. These are my thoughts and I dont expect you to solve them or come up with an answer but I thought I would put the thoughts out there as I cant be the only guy, bi/gay/str8 who would just like some mutual masturbation/ erotic touch without the worry that STIs bring, and that it happens in a safe place. I have been in a men`s group for 6 years and occasionally talked about such things but such real sex talk is rare and not always appropriate or what men want in that therapeutic setting. I know you have talked about having a spirituality group but I think that spritualising sex moves it away from the reality of intimacy. The church fears sex so turns it into some kind of intimate god talk but with your pants firmly on, when in reality men want someone to touch them for real, only then do they see the divine. Real divinity cannot be separated from real physicality. As I dont believe there is such a thing as an eternal soul separate from the body then divinity and sexuality and physical intimacy are the same and interchangeable, the real trinity of love. I think a group of men talking about their desires and anxieties and real needs and fears is missing. If we talk about it then men may gravitate to meeting that desire and need for intimacy, who knows…..So I have said it and its out there flying around the heavens. so much love power and respect to you mr sex wizard, and mr love men wizard. Marco del rey