No Such Thing

art by Tamir Lahav

17 Replies to “No Such Thing”

  1. I think this topic, like many on this site, is being written about from a particularly biased view point. This site is basically a high brow lot of abstracted and generally pointless articles to give qualification to a pack of lonely middle aged, middle class habitual wankers. OF COURSE you’re not going to accept that porn most certainly is addictive in a detrimental way. The thing is, calm the @#%$ down – nobody said YOU’RE addicted! But it is dangerous and corrupt of you to promote the idea that it’s not POSSIBLE to be addicted to porn. Ive witnessed it. A guy who came around to have sex with me asking, as I was on all fours with him fucking me from behind, if it was ok that if he put his MOBILE PHONE ON MY BACK to CONTINUE watching his porn! If that’s not addiction then what is?

    1. hello Neon, I was wondering if you could guess my 2 favourite words in the English language. I’ll give you a clue, the first one begins with F

      1. Haha, this is all highly amusing. On one side, such alarming words like “biased” and “dangerous and corrupt” coupled with hilariously reductive phrases like “a pack of middle aged, middle class habitual wankers” (probably some truth to that). On the other side, the ultimate “F” phrase dismissal, finger-sign (single, or double) hoisted, both implied. From my old age, middle class, edging rather than wanking point of view, of course there is such a thing as porn, and of course it is GREAT! It’s a varied and as necessary to a healthy libido as sex in real life is. For me “good” porn means porn with actors s who really, probably unbeknownst to themselves beforehand, get into each other and have great sex in front of us the audience. We all know what “bad” porn looks like. But good vs. bad porn, not the existence of porn itself, which everyone loves, is the distinction that matters. Neon’s example of the guy watching porn on his phone while fucking him is a FUCKING SCREAM! A kind of foursome! Did Neon have no idea when he was chatting with his porn-addict that something weird might happen if he asked him over? Note to self: Always check with the guy you’re chatting with on Planet Romeo whether he (assuming he keeps the date, Neon is lucky!) wants to watch porn while having sex with you. If he says yes, then insist on having a say in what kind of porn you will watch together while you are having sex. Why didn’t Neon ask his porn addict to put his phone somewhere so they both could watch?! It was probably better than the fuck he was having.

  2. It is not, and never will be, an addiction.
    What exists is a great conservative advance in all areas… And gay sexuality and especially female sexuality are the main foundations of this horrendous conservatism.
    With gays, conservatives say that they are at the heart of the “destruction of family values”… With women, the guilt and intransigence of freedom of expression and their bodies..
    Sad that in the 21st century we are going back to the middle ages… SAD 💔

  3. Very well written thank you and about time that the truth was exposed on these manufactured and unsubstantiated definition used by the media and the therapist community.

  4. Porn can definitely be addictive just like sex Or masturbation even in the absence of porn. It’s an addiction when you start going to it to get horny rather than the other way around, it’s an addiction when you feel sexual every day and look at people who should just be a platonic interest to you as something more for no explicable reason other that you becoming hyper sexual from looking at fantasy depictions of unhealthy sex. I come here because as far as porn goes, it’s some of the more ethical kind. But there is so much porn out there that leads to a rabbit hole. When you start looking at people and one of your first thoughts being evaluating how “fuckable” they appear and undressing them with your eyes, you’re consuming too much porn. Some people are alcoholics, addicts of any sort, me, I can’t control myself around porn. It’s literally a tool of manipulation used to hijack the brain’s primitive reward systems, the orgasm is possible one of the highest neurochemical peaks a human being can reach, and with the sheer amount of dopamine released, it very much promotes reinforcement of behavior, combine that with porn and it’s a viscous positive feedback loop. Never started to see it until I realized there are people who don’t talk, or seem to think about sex anywhere near as much as me, and those people, don’t watch porn on a daily basis. I’ve been coming to this site since I was a minor, (which is on me and my parents for not supervising me better) among other porn sites, porn as a kid fucked me up as an adult to this day. The porn industry is insidious, so I feel like people complaining about the therapy industry trying to capitalize on people’s guilt is just hypocrisy when you compare it to the porn industry capitalizing on people’s baser urges and appealing to sexual depravity. All while running websites that do virtually NOTHING to protect minors from viewing the content, creating a new generation of little perverts with a fucked up view of sexual connection, just like me… :/

      1. Me encanta y disfruto a diario de esta adicción si queremos llamarla así.
        Me hace descubrir nuevas sensaciones..
        Yo adoro la pornografía desde siempre.

  5. Porn. Nicotine. Caffeine. Video games. Anything that occupies time that people say should be spent submitting to the will of others (how much do others need of me? When do I get to practice self care, and solitude and inner reflection, even if it’s just base eroticism?). Even work is sometimes classified as addiction. Moderation might be better than elimination. And why isn’t gardening an addiction?

      1. I would say I’m addicted or more so a sex addict maybe, and that it’s grown stronger as I’ve gotten older but I’m ok with it, there’s possibly worse things to be addicted to in life and I own being so to porn

  6. what is porn ? God or nature made sexes naked made love making as reproduction means
    why we humans stick lebels on what is good or bad ?
    see nude or sex provoke in us an emotion that is a natural reaction psychiatrist should says it is a « neurones mirror » reaction
    gives envy to imitate .. so is a natural reaction that some frustrated minds define «porn»
    i regret i could not see porn when younger probably my sexual action might. have been more fun for me and partners

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