I am 21 years old and I am what you might call, bi curious. I have only admitted that I was questioning my own sexuality to one person, and it was someone I didn’t know. This is the second time I am admitting it. A question I really want to ask you guys is this. How do I know if I’m gay. Here are my symptoms:
1) I enjoy anal stimulation from my girlfriend and from myself
2) I jerk off to gay porn, but only bondage or kinky stuff.
3) I have fantasized about being pleased by other males that I know in real life, or males that I dont know..
I think my family and friends might know i’m gay, but I can’t admit it and the fact that they MIGHT know makes me lose my breath…I find it humiliating…I need someone to talk to about this, hopefully someone who has been in the -same situation or something close to it please leave a message. Thank you for running this site !
I had the same struggles as a young man and had a lot of guilt and shame because of society pressure. I couldn’t stop being with other men once I had been with another man. My true happiness and fulfillment came once I accepted it and embraced my homosexuality. Be true to yourself and not conform to false ideas of heterosexual lifestyle. – Tyler
All the reply’s here are excellent. If you enjoy sex with your wife or other women, take it, it’s what you enjoy and makes you content. Sex with men is so different than with women. Men know what another man wants and enjoys. These comments also remind me of my life. I knew at a single digit age they attracted me. I started having sexual encounters with men when I was in High School. I’ve had many enjoyable moments. I married, have children, and no one knows my man’s side of the coin. They don’t need to. I like it that way. I am now a young 84 and would love to have another encounter. I still get it up. It’s no big deal.
What you are going through is extremely hard, but you are being honest with yourself, which is maybe the hardest part. My first, and maybe my most intense, relationship involving (not all aspects of mature, uninhibited) sex was with an older boy in high school. It was very intense. Then my parents found out, threatened to speak to my friend’s parents if I didn’t stop seeing him, etc. It was really unpleasant. But I never regretted my relationship with him and have thought about him my whole life. Meanwhile I started having relationships with girls, loved having sex with them, got married several times, lots of kids. But also lots of never-ending fantasies about sex with men, which I finally did start having when I was in my 50s! If I was growing up now, maybe I would have come out and lived a happy, fulfilled life as a gay man. Although my life with women has been great, now all I really want is to be with either of the two men with whom I have had extended, passionate, secret relationships over the past few years, plus have lots of adventures with other guys when and if the opportunity arises. So my advice is: Enjoy being who you are, frustrations and all, don’t be afraid of what anyone else thinks, don’t be anxious, don’t have regrets, be honest with yourself and your partners, live life to the full. Don’t waste a moment, because before you know it, you’ll be 78!
What everyone is writing to you here is that it doesn’t matter what you are, only how you get satisfaction. And if you know how to get it, do it!
A.Non, You are you.
That’s all you need to go with.
No one else defines you in any way.
Only you do.
You are perfect exactly as you are, brother.
Peace.
As a 100% gay man, it seems like an easy question to answer: if you get an erection by looking at naked guys, then you’re gay. If you get one from looking at naked women, you’re hetero. If you bone out from looking at both, then you’re bisexual. DON’T over complicate it.
I wish it was so uncomplicated, I get an erection driving my truck. Does that mean I’m into trucks
Thank you for that, brother.
Not to change the the subject (although if the young man man only falls in love with and has relationships with women, I’d “classify” him as straight– not that labels really mean anything), but regarding the top photo– a picture says a thousand words, or can create a thousand fantasies.
I agree with others here I love women but I enjoy cock too love the feeling of being taken and to suck cock I am a cum addict either from the source or second hand from her pussy it’s not so much how he looks but whether his cock is a turn on
It’s not about gay, straight or bi, it’s about male sexuality. I don’t have gay sex, I have guy sex. Only a guy can fully understand what another guy needs and feels. I enjoy giving that intense pleasure to other guys and them giving it to me. It is an amazing gift I am happy to share.
It sounds to me like you are into guys but you really won’t know for sure until you have sex with one. If having a man’s face and possibly cock up your ass doesn’t make your eyes go back in your head and make you feel as if you’d never had sex before, then you might not be gay! But if it does… BINGO! Then you’re a certified cock sucker. Be proud of it. Seriously. You can’t change it. Believe me, I’ve tried. I got married, had kids, stayed away from gyms and men in general. But no matter what I couldn’t run away from the truth. After 14 years, dick finally drew me in and once I had a taste, that was it. You can’t deny who you are and you SHOULDN’T deny it! Find the truth and you’ll find happiness. Find a gay friend to fuck with and see!