Sex & Homophobia

I have had sex with many men, most of whom identify as straight, many of whom are married with children (and grandchildren). We have to accept that there is no such thing as “gay” or “straight” or “bisexual”. There is sexuality and homophobia. Homophobia was invented by the Vatican during the Spanish Inquisition (1200-1800s) when gay men were burnt at the stake throughout Europe in their thousands. Gay men having to wear the pink triangle or were exterminated during the Nazi occupation of Europe [1924 (Italy) – 1975 (Spain)], has meant that men have been taught to hide their sexuality for good reasons. It was -and is- a life and death issue. The Taliban in Afghanistan recently threw openly gay men off buildings or stoned them to their death. Sexuality has been shrouded in fear and repression for too long. It is time we got honest with each other and learnt to love each other openly. Without the labels that get in the way of intimacy with another man.