I have had sex with many men, most of whom identify as straight, many of whom are married with children (and grandchildren). We have to accept that there is no such thing as “gay” or “straight” or “bisexual”. There is sexuality and homophobia.
Homophobia was invented by the Vatican during the Spanish Inquisition (1200-1800s) when gay men were burnt at the stake throughout Europe in their thousands. Gay men having to wear the pink triangle or were exterminated during the Nazi occupation of Europe [1924 (Italy) – 1975 (Spain)], has meant that men have been taught to hide their sexuality for good reasons. It was -and is- a life and death issue. The Taliban in Afghanistan recently threw openly gay men off buildings or stoned them to their death. Sexuality has been shrouded in fear and repression for too long. It is time we got honest with each other and learnt to love each other openly. Without the labels that get in the way of intimacy with another man. – Martin H.
Living your sexuality to the fullest is still a utopia for many.
Loving another man and not being afraid to express this love in all environments, especially external ones, is sometimes a sentence of humiliation or even death, even for those who are openly gay. Because these “values” of the traditional family are still very strong in many places, even though there are strong LGBTQIP+ movements, many men still prefer to hide in a heterosexual marriage in order to keep their sexuality hidden.
I am from Brazil, a country that made homophobia a crime, and even so there are many “sham marriages”.
Being proud of being gay is for the few.
I want to live in a world where homosexuality is celebrated as the highest form of sexuality. Remove everything that is not sexual from sexuality and it becomes obvious that homosexuality is pure. There can me nothing more masculine than men having sex with men – and I’m sure the world would be better if that was universally accepted.