Not Gay And Not Not Gay

In the 1990s, the world-renowned spiritual teacher and author, Ram Dass, made a significant revelation about his sexuality. Known for his transformative teachings on consciousness and spirituality, Ram Dass added a new layer to his public persona by discussing his bisexuality. He candidly shared, “I’ve started to talk more about being bisexual, being involved with men as well as women,” and added his opinion that for him, his sexuality “isn’t gay, and it’s not not-gay, and it’s not anything—it’s just awareness.” and expressed his perspective that his sexuality transcended traditional labels, stating, “it’s just awareness.” Dass’s openness about his bisexuality shed light on the idea that our identities and experiences can be fluid and ever-evolving, much like the spiritual growth he advocated throughout his life. His teachings continue to encourage self-acceptance, compassion, and a deeper understanding of the human experience. Ram Dass left a profound legacy, inspiring people to explore their own paths to higher consciousness. His willingness to share this personal aspect of his life only adds to the richness of his teachings and the enduring impact he has had on those who seek a deeper connection with themselves and the world around them. – Ram Dass

It’s interesting to read all the different takes on this. Apart from that comment about sin – I don’t find it helpful to be cast as sinning. I felt shame and fear about my homosexual feelings for years, and in order to accommodate my undeniable attraction to men, and my sexual involvement with women, I came up with much the same view as Ram Dass, that sexuality is a field, and some people gather at one end, some in the middle and some at the other end, while some, like myself, wander around, exploring different places in that field. This narrative offered some comfort to me, enabling me to wriggle free of any shaming labels, even though shame still had me in its grip. It served my fragile ego to be able to dodge that truth that I was queer. Later in life, I finally shed my fear and shame and embraced that truth: that I am attracted to men, not women; that I love cock, and muscle, man-scent and hairiness and our grunting lust; that I am repelled by pussy and tits, by lady-scent and femininity and their mewing lust. The notion of a field of sexuality, of flexibility has , for me, broken down completely: I am really only interested in men. And I completely accept that I am speaking only for myself, I am not seeking to rule on the nature of any one else’s sexuality. I am grateful for, and celebrate my sexuality, I am completely comfortable with it, and I absolutely love this site and the delightful content of pictures, videos and writing about men, cocks, pleasure, happenis and cumm. Thank you Seb for your dedication. I bless you. – Amar Rama

22 Replies to “Not Gay And Not Not Gay”

  1. I officially came out as gay in my undergraduate years of college. It was the 70s, and nearly everyone in my world smoked pot. I believe I had sex with more straight men than I did with gay men in those years. Most of these guys I kept up with until middle age. Almost all were married with children. I had to wonder if horny youth and pot were the only reason we had sex, and how many of these guys had ‘buddies’ they still had sex with. It is my belief that men are sexual, and are driven by their cocks and balls.

  2. The awareness of my curiosity man to man sex came in my early teens. It excited me and fueled masturbation as much as heterosexual thoughts. But the fact that I fantasized about men also scared me. It was the 1970s and no one spoke much about bisexuality, but rather spoke the opinion that there was straight and gay, leaving me quite confused. Thankfully an older friend and mentor lead me on a path of discovery, somewhat tearing down the stigma I feared. My teen years were filled with the “typical” young male discovery of women, but also a deeply profound journey of sex with other men. Yes, I remained closeted, but moved comfortably between my sexual realities.

    I stepped away fro male sex for a number of years, forcing myself to abstain through my time in the military and then college, marrying and starting a family, but the fact that I was bisexual never left me. It was only a matter of time before the need to fulfill my true sexuality surfaced and I ventured back to the arms of men, still largely closeted.

    Years of being single after a divorce allowed me much more freedom and I developed some wonderful relationships with men, some of whom I have continued as sex partners for many years. I have guardedly “come out” to a small number of people in my regular life. As a result I have even enjoyed sex with a couple of my otherwise straight friends. Likewise the few women I have been open with have been supportive and sometimes aroused by my sexual life.

    In the end, I am. That doesn’t require labels or stigma, but rather self acknowledgement. I am how I was made and wired. I am sexual, caring, loving, passionate and more. The male body is a magnificent creation and male-2-male sexuality is a magnificent exerience.

    1. Joesph,
      Well written piece from 10/ 2023.
      Feel all men are essentially Bi. Most will never admit however. Those that come explore & experience will find a wonderful masculine connection.
      That manly connection fills my soul.
      Regards,
      Don

  3. It’s interesting to read all the different takes on this.

    Apart from that comment about sin – I don’t find it helpful to be cast as sinning.

    I felt shame and fear about my homosexual feelings for years, and in order to accommodate my undeniable attraction to men, and my sexual involvement with women, I came up with much the same view as Ram Dass, that sexuality is a field, and some people gather at one end, some in the middle and some at the other end, while some, like myself, wander around, exploring different places in that field.
    This narrative offered some comfort to me, enabling me to wriggle free of any shaming labels, even though shame still had me in its grip.
    It served my fragile ego to be able to dodge that truth that I was queer.

    Later in life, I finally shed my fear and shame and embraced that truth: that I am attracted to men, not women; that I love cock, and muscle, man-scent and hairiness and our grunting lust; that I am repelled by pussy and tits, by lady-scent and femininity and their mewing lust.

    The notion of a field of sexuality, of flexibility has , for me, broken down completely: I am really only interested in men.
    And I completely accept that I am speaking only for myself, I am not seeking to rule on the nature of any one else’s sexuality.
    I am grateful for, and celebrate my sexuality, I am completely comfortable with it, and I absolutely love this site and the delightful content of pictures, videos and writing about men, cocks, pleasure, happenis and cumm.
    Thank you Seb for your dedication. I bless you.

    1. not really. God made man. then man was bored. God wanted to entertain him and thus made the woman. If God is all powerful, he invented sin too for his own entertainment. If sin comes from somewhere else, then God is not all powerful. It’s pretty simple: if God is love, then he wants you to live happy. But if God doesn’t want you to be happy and instead punishes you: then why should you obey a dictator?

      1. If God made man in his image, then man cannot sin without offending his maker. Why did god make a penis so good looking and feel so good.😊

      2. God is Holy like no other Holy He Jesus Gods other self came so we who have a free will because God doesn’t force anyone to come to him as He didn’t force Lucifer when am Angel rebel left heaven to rule rebel s yet to come might have the chance to come to heaven one day after this life only if we believe the gospel and receive eternal life and with His Holy Spirit know God in salvation through Jesus Christ sacrifice for for it to happen. No other way because our goodness is filled with self apart from Christ goodness. That’s TRUTH GODs TRUTH!!!

  4. Buenos días Con estos comentarios y refle”iones,me siento cada día más aceptado por mi mismo y desearía que lo mismo hiciese la sociedad.Muchas gracias por sus palabras.abrazos.

  5. we r in majority sexually fluid
    when the opportunity situation momentum to act occurs … it happens ! for someone it happens early in life for others later for others never so they ignore or r not interested , that they have this possibility
    i personally think is a very private experience .. nowadays gays claming like gooses about their coming out on the net is becoming inflationist and boring
    who care about their experiences of coming out ? not me !

          1. Or, as one might respond when solicited at home for charitable contributions, “Thank you, but I gave at the Orifice.”

          2. Well, it certainly is tempting to Ram Datass not that there’s anything gay or anything not-gay about that purrfectly natural instinct.

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