No matter the age, I’ve noticed that over 90% of the men at my gym change under a towel or change while behind the curtain in their shower. At a time when we all, literally, have unlimited porn in the palms of our hands, men have become prudes when it comes to changing in front of other men. When I was in my teens and 20’s men thought nothing of changing, chatting, shaving or walking around the locker room nude. It was natural. Doing the underwear under the towel dance is unnatural. JoE
I think in part its because we’ve taught a few generations of men, that our nudity is profane and wrong. I mean we taught them to conceal their private parts, that they should only be revealed in the most limited sense, such as a doctors visit. Porn as liberating as it is, has also made many men embarrassed by their manhood for not being pop can thick and 10 inches long. When you combine shame of being seen naked and embarrassment of possibly being the smallest guy in the group, it just seems easier on the ego and self worth to change quickly and get the hell out of there. Alexi
I am in my mid-50s. I work out 4 days a week at the gym. I’ve noticed many of the younger men do not get naked when changing. Instead, they put a towel on and remove their underwear, then put on shorts under the towel and then remove the towel. Reverse happens after showering. I don’t get it. Are they really that homophobic that they won’t get naked in front of other men? Or are they embarrassed about their size? At that age, we never covered up when changing. It’s just weird. Jose
A few years ago I took weight training and then stretched muscles in the following swim class at a Junior College in Northern California. Young men and older men in their fifties and sixties mingled in classes. and showers. I observed that most of the younger students were modest in the shower and didn’t linger. The four other older men in my class were not bothered and simply let it all hang out. I hadn’t noticed any sexual activity in the showers in the months I had been in class. I have always been attracted to men my age or older. So the students didn’t hold interest for me. I was attracted to an Iranian man who I knew had an expensive Oriental Rug shop in town. He was friendly and chatted sometimes about business. He was pleased to note I owned Oriental rugs and laid them in various rooms of my home. He invited me to visit his store sometime. I noticed he started finding a spot directly across from me in the gang shower. His ass was furry and really firm for his age. His body was well defined from years in the gym. We were the last guys in the showers one day. He turned to face me as water and soap suds rushed down the hairy chest and pubic area and then to his legs. His cock was beautiful. Cut and perfectly shaped. I got hard. He acted like he didn’t noticed and soon his cock was totally erect. I looked around and saw we were alone and I started to masturbate. He manipulated his cock and soon we both ejaculated. Later dressed and leaving the school gym he told me he had obtained a vintage Bokara in excellent condition. He mentioned his wife was thinking of laying it in their dinning room. But he convinced her it needed to be sold. We laughed at her extravagance. He said I should come and check out. I didn’t see him in the weight training class or the showers for two weeks. I decided to stop by the shop. It was a large emporium of Persian, Chinese and Indian hand woven rugs. His wife seemed to be an advisor and was helping an interior designer and her client make a choice. My gym friend, could be seen in the window of his office on far wall. He saw me and waved me over. Inside his office he greeted me. He had been busy with semi annual inventory and hadn’t been the to gym for a few days. I asked about the Bokora. It was in the vintage salon on the upper floor. I followed him up back stairs. He flicked on lights. I forget what kind of special lighting he had to protect the valuable rugs. The rug was stunning. Bokora is my favorite, but it was clearly out of my price range. I noticed he had a bulge in his light grey slacks. He nodded for me to follow and started for the rear of the salon to a small room. I entered to find him with his cock out. He indicated the two pillows at his feet. I knelt and started sucking him off. He pulled me up. Unzipped my jeans and pulled them down. I stepped out of them. I wasn’t wearing underwear. He didn’t ask. Just put on a condom. Used lube he had hidden in a small drawer and offered it to me to apply to myself. I applied to his condom clad cock. He gently turned me around and I leaned against the wall. He managed to open me up with some finger work then he entered me. He was kind to allow me to adjust to the invasion. The sting went away I said “Ok.” He started fucking me. He eventually came and pulled out of my ass. He rolled the condom into several layers of tissue. We dressed. And as we passed the vintage Bokora he commented he was glad to show it to me.
Dave,
What a great way for enjoyment to happen organically! Bravo to you!
Men who are not into men…find themselves covering up because many/most gay men are not as respectful about the familiarity of locker rooms. Straight women say the same thing!
Chill back men, You will know if you are welcome to look or approach!
It’s ok to get a semi, or even hard. You’re not gay, you’re normal.
How many guys don’t get semi if they are washing well. Or just for no reason, HaPenis has a mind of its own, just freeing it from clothing can be one of those moments. Get used to it and cut your brothers some slack, remember to admire in a respectful way and normalise HaPenis!
Some people are just shy. Don’t be so judgemental of others, you make it sound like a crime to not be an exhibitionist.
Is it exhibitionism simply to wash, dry and put clothes on with other men in the same room? Here in the states this odd situation with men being embarrassed about their own physical form has grown exponentially in the last 30 years. How can guys at the center of a culture that seems to glorify violence, even sexual violence, be so insecure about their own bodies or paranoid about some other guy looking at them naked? A high, gory body count in a recent action or horror film, electing a president that, by his own admission, finds it appropriate to accost females or raising young men to send countless nude images of themselves to strangers on the internet is fine. Such a high crime it is, though, for some other fella to see your willy in a shower or locker room. There has to be a reason that things changed and its not homosexuals in a locker room, either. There always have been. It is likely some psychological issue with the guys that cover up. Most guys could stand a bit of male bonding, brotherhood, and sense of comradery with other men. What better way than when no females are around? It really does seem like the men here have taken on more traditionally female traits and insecurities. Its kind of sad and seems like it would be a bit lonely. Its almost like the act of covering up among other men is a type of self emasculation. It reminds me of a day when I was very young and went to an all male nude beach for the first time. I realised after an hour, maybe, that I was the only one out of about a hundred guys wearing a swim suit. In such a scenario, it quickly occurs to you that you must have some sort of hang up. I didn’t take the few men that were staring at me as a judgement so much as consider it an observation on their part. I really was the odd man out in that scenario and there was no way to think otherwise. Whatever it is that’s going on in locker rooms here lately, its weird, noticeably awkward (like me on that beach) and seems quite unnatural.
I’ve also noticed this at the gym I go to. There are very few men who get naked, and the few who do are older.
And I don’t think it’s because they’re afraid of photos or videos on cell phones, but rather because they’re afraid of being judged for the size of their dick, or even a curvier body.
We should be happy and grateful for our bodies, and showing them to others is an unshakable form of self-love.
I love being naked.
In my earlier years I was a dancer in Las Vegas. I learned a lot about so many things…in a good way. Men and women (or boys and the girls as we called them) just didn’t have all that body shame. For one thing there were not a lot of clothes on stage so I guess covering up backstage seemed senseless. I remember when I first got the job I was standing in the wings and talking with a female principle dancer about…the weather or something…and she was playing with her nipples as we talked. She was getting them hard before going on stage. It wasn’t a sexual thing, it was just that hard nipples looked better for the audience. I remember thinking “What kind of world have I stepped in to?” I loved it.
I also learned a lot about people being comfortable (or not) with their sexuality – whatever it might be. There were straight guys who were 100% comfortable being around gay guys. They might walk by with nothing on and one of the guys would grab their cock and they would laugh and rough house back with them. I remember one straight guy actually starting to get hard when something like this happened but these guys were straight. Just very comfortable being around gay guys in a predominantly gay environment. There were also “straight” guys (married to women) who were very uptight about the whole thing. For each of these uptight guys it was clear there was some unresolved sexuality stuff going on. No judgment either way. We never know what a person’s previous life was like. We all struggle in some way to overcome our upbringing I guess. Some more than others. Thank you Las Vegas. I treasure those years and all that it taught me.
JosephG
No, it’s not prudery. Phones with cameras are ubiquitous, and no one wants their image snapped and trafficked.
At my gym, the men swinging it all seem to be well over 60!
Exactly. The fear of being secretly recorded and having a pic/video of yourself posted on the internet is the cause of all this prudery. The person recording should be charged and sentenced to life prison. It is a violation to steal someone’s dignity in this way. It is also very creepy.
This problem needs to be addressed starting with this website because it is promoting secret recording.
The rule should be that pics/videos that appear to be secretly recorded (true or not) should be banned from this website. As a result this website would become a leader in rejecting secret recordings and promote “permission granted” by the subject being recorded.
Perhaps when a person is uploading a pic/video he would have to check a box swearing that the media is not a secret recording and that he has the permission of the subject being recorded to distribute the media. Is this already part of the media uploading process? If not it should be.
What other aspects of new technology are changing the behavior of (young) people regarding prudery? We have to take measures that prevent the belief that the camera is always on – especially in men’s spaces.
doogiekd, This website does not promote secret recordings.