Bi and married is likely more the norm than people realize or care to admit. As men our penises are mostly exterior, thus responding to external stimuli, triggering or arousing more external than internal response. Men have always been naked in the company of other men – we’re wired that way and it’s only modern living which has changed. We’re into to our own cocks, and thus other men’s. I don’t see it as a matter of orientation as much as being alive with a penis. A concise word is that as men we’re homosocial, enjoying other men’s company, with or without clothes. Some might see it as an abbreviation for homosexual socialist, but the truth remains: men need one another in brotherhood with penis in common. StoneAndy
Totally agree StoneAndy. The fact that there are many sites catering to men who, like us, understand this is testament to the fact. Google “phallic brotherhood”, which is really what we are discussing and you will find even more enlightenment. A couple related thoughts – all men masturbate, masturbation is truly about cock, so masturbation should only be to cock and homosexuality. And once you under this, you will learn that masturbation to homosexuality brings more to your life than masturbation to hetero porn ever could. It’s a little bit of having you cake and eating it too! – Phalluster
Phalluster
I discovered masturbation on my own when my age was still in single digits.
I am well past 60 years now and have been masturbation for 54 years, and at least 2x per day for at least 45 years.
I’ve crank out over 30,000 loads all by my lonesome. Im still going at it at least once per day.
Its self care.
I did all my experimenting with self-induced orgasm when I was a young teen and still a virgin. Ball straps, lube, powder, feathers, silk scarves, makeshift cock rings…I was precocious to say the least.
Im not retired from work, nor the pursuit of real live sex partners. I do not have the time nor the proclivity to worship my own dick – I want to cum inside someone’s mouth or ass. Yes, its harder to find partners as i get older- gay men as a group worship youth. I find youth repellent. So there is, for me, a dwindling supply of contemporaries to hook up with. But I still seek, because masturbation has always been a placeholder for me. Something to do to empty my balls, to make me feel good. Some men drink, some men smoke weed to get the same calm that I achieve from rubbing out a load and eating it. Yes, I usually eat my cum. Think what you will, it tastes great and If Id swallow another man’s nut, why not my own?
So if masturbation is a sacred ritual for you and others, Im glad you have the time and the mindfulness to luxuriate in that event.
I prefer to kiss a man who has the taste of my cum, and preferably tobacco on his breath as I thank him for his service.
To each, his own.
Masturbating is about the penis, the same way that the soap sponge is about doing the dishes – it’s a vehicle that drives you to the desired destination which is, an orgasm or an empty sink.
The sex act is really happening in your mind. Where are you? Who are you with?
What kind of porn are you watching on your phone while your unaware wife is in another room?
It’s not a sacred act- masturbation is a means to release endorphins into your bloodstream so you can take the edge off your closeted life.
Let’s not wax poetic about something even monkeys do. Spit stroke repeat- until you can sneak in a fuck session with whom you really desire.
Just keeping it real…
Joe – There is much to respond to and I hope you don’t take any of this in the wrong way. If there is nothing sacred in masturbation for you I feel you are missing out. For many years my masturbation was mostly as you describe – often a way to release some stress before going to bed after too many hours of work. And for those same many years my masturbation was predominantly to heterosexual porn. But for me, in recent years it has become much more, thanks in large part to sites like this. As I have more time to devote to masturbation it has become a medibation, a spiritual journey to understand and connect to my masculinity and my male sexuality, and to embrace my homosexuality alongside my heterosexual relationship with my wife. Open yourself to allowing masturbation to be not just a way to take the edge off, but to “edge” – filling yourself with Phallic lust, and then don’t let that leave. I know that I’ve grown as a man and a human by masturbating more thoughtfully and with more purpose now that I am more mature.
There is a dominance factor with some straight men. They enjoy being dominant when engaging in physical acts with other men. It is easy for me to understand as I am turned on by being the one controlling the direction of things. So much so that if a guy takes over, it is a turn off for me. This has served me well with all the encounters with Men I have experienced over the years. Sometimes if you are too aggressive with a straight guy you will run him off. Its a dance so to speak, you have to feel out the situation and act accordingly.
That is not to say I do not enjoy the men that simply enjoy being serviced and will allow you to do ALL the work including accessing his HaPenis lowering zipper or fly buttons etc. Lots of men enjoy getting felt up through their pants too. Whether he is already hard or getting hard its all very hot.
I also enjoyed the men who didn’t hesitate to drop em but were still flaccid and you get to do that honor of creating his erect HaPenis for the occasion! At the ABS, sometimes I could get a read on a guy by what kind of porn he was viewing. If there were dicks in the porn then almost anything was possible it seemed. If they were big dicks then I had a nice surprise for the man 🙂
I don’t know about dominance; I mostly get off on nonpenetrative sex (when I’m with other men). I’m really find of masturbating in groups, for instance. I guess my love of naked wrestling has a dominance element? But I don’t have to win.