Masculinity appears toxic to anyone who cannot embody it. It’s certainly not an inclusive ideal. And these days where inclusiveness is a mantra, and where everyone gets a medal just by showing up, you can imagine how unfashionable Masculinity has become. People have tried for ages to define what masculinity is, but as soon as you put it to words you diminish it into a mockery. Yet we do try. Masculinity is a presence, a state where the body is a mirror of the mind. Every bulging muscle. Every straw of beard. Every whiff of musk. Every vein on a swollen, massive cock. That spark in a real Man’s eyes. They all radiate potency. They demand respect and worship. That’s the best I can do, and look how cheesy it got. It can be dissected and ridiculed in a hundred different ways, particularly by those who don’t “get it”. The best way to embody masculinity is to surround yourself with it. Look for true Alphas, and let them empower you. To have an Alpha Man in your midst is not a threat, it’s a blessing. Why not suck a Man’s cock? Worship his balls, smell them, rest your face against them. Dive face first into his armpits, let yourself be intoxicated by his scent. Feel his Manhood throb in your mouth, the urethra pound like a piston, feel the head grow bigger and harder… notice his belly heave as his seed explodes into you. By all means, spit it out afterwards. You have already received his most important gift, and that’s his energy. It’s that energy that unlocks something in your brain. “Put some hair on yer chest” is not an expression without origin. – I love you, Brothers. – BEN
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I have been an alpha my entire life in scholastics, business, my entertainment career and in my relationships. I am masculine and enjoy it. I am also compassionate, loving, caring, and tender even in strength. These are all traits that those who ridicule masculinity do not recognize as traits of masculinity. In other words, they lie out of their fear and distaste of masculinity. Part of my tenderness and loving is expressed in my relationships with men, and sometimes those relationships are sensual, sexual and loving. In that case for me, it is often submitting myself for the pleasure of another. I do so without sacrificing an ounce of my masculinity, even when I am on my knees with a magnificent hard cock in my mouth, or flat on my face with a trusted brother deep inside me. We are men, respecting each other and ourselves, masculine regardless of any tag of gay, bi, or straight. We are in touch with who we are, how we are wired and created. Joseph
Masculinity is that which is not feminine. Being a kind, caring and loving person is not gendered, but unfortunately there are men who view these traits as a negative. I think it is perfectly reasonable for women to view men who are rude and treat women as subordinates as having toxic masculinity. One very specific thing that is masculine is cock – and men sharing their cocks with other men has to be the most masculine thing a man can do!
Joseph, I share with you your feelings in relation to physical, mental and emotional strength. I am gay myself, but I have always felt attracted by the masculine, muscular men. (Maybe because my own father has failed in these three things.) Unfortunately, as open-minded as we seem to be in modern times about sex, how to handle and practice it, it is still a big problem for many. Maybe because they don’t know how to deal with their own body and feelings? If we all knew how to worship our own body and how to love ourselves, much less problems would exist in this world. We would know much better the difference between sexual attraction and emotional solidarity. If we were honest with ourselves and others in relation to this, things would be much easier – much less lies, hypocrisy and misunderstanding would dominate. Instead, stereotypes are still influencing too much the world. Making people (especially women) believe that, just because you’re physically strong, you are generally a threat to them. And with the news about aggressions (against them) in the whole world, they feel confirmed. Why then feel attracted by the opposite sex? Wouldn’t it be better to be gay in that case? Sometimes, they marry the shy, shaved, tamed “boy” to make sure that nothing “bad” happens. And end frustrated and unsatisfied over the years.
In my opinion, the patriarchy is the bigger problem. It always wants to divide and control everything in society. And that forces us to do and say things, that are completely wrong and limit us in our liberties and wellbeing. Maybe it should be discussed more deeply here.
Love your honest post! Thank you
for sharing And expressing yourself as a free thinker, that to me, is one of the most masculine of attributes-
I love all of the aspects you cited, and thrill to memories of being permitted to put my tongue in a real man’s asshole, the smell of the sweaty musk and Hair surrounding it was like a drug to me- I’ve always been able to suck above my ‘caste’ I remember some jealousy from closeted males who wondered how somebody like me could be servicing a team team captain or BMOC- first and most importantly, I knew my place and secondly, I had honed my skills to level that Surpassed the grudging service these men were used to getting or settling for…
Anyway, thank you very much. I really enjoyed your post..
I have been an alpha my entire life in scholastics, business, my entertainment career and in my relationships. I am masculine and enjoy it. I am also compassionate, loving, caring, and tender even in strength. These are all traits that those who ridicule masculinity do not recognize as traits of masculinity. In other words, they lie out of their fear and distaste of masculinity.
Part of my tenderness and loving is expressed in my relationships with men, and sometimes those relationships are sensual, sexual and loving. In that case for me, it is often submitting myself for the pleasure of another. I do so without sacrificing an ounce of my masculinity, even when I am on my knees with a magnificent hard cock in my mouth, or flat on my face with a trusted brother deep inside me. We are men, respecting each other and ourselves, masculine regardless of any tag of gay, bi, or straight. We are in touch with who we are, how we are wired and created.
Joseph,
You have hit a Grand Slam with your post on February 13, 2024 @3:41.
ALL men need the love, support & kindness from AlPHA men like us.
We are even they should emulate.
God Bless you,
D
Joseph,
Your words SUPERFLUOUS !!! AMEN,…..Spot on brother.
Thank you
Regards,
Donald
Ben, when you write “Why not suck a man’s cock ….” etc., the vividness and energy of your manly writing is totally arousing. It’s fantastic! I have experienced everything you describe here my whole life, except your feelings of rejection. I agree, to characterise the kind of masculinity you embody as toxic, to try to domesticate it in marriages with women, to mock it, is totally wrong. The empowerment of women over the last few decades and their pushback, not just against men like Donald Trump (who has a tiny dick), etc., but against much more manly men just minding their own business, for Christ’s sake, has certainly made a lot of us feel defensive about our masculinity. I’m not saying that’s what your expressing here. But I think, as Seb’s site illustrates so well, embracing masculinity whole-heartedly, revelling in bulging muscles, the musk of crotches and armpits, the rough love of beards, etc. is something that all of us can do and most of us have experienced. But we don’t need muscles, chest hair, or massive cocks ourselves, which are largely genetic endowments to begin with, to be Alpha males. We are, in our own ways, capable of being masculine men and divinely masculine! Thank you, Ben, it is always wonderful to read your inspiring comments.
Well said brother.
I want to comment again on Ben’s post “I love you ,Brothers,” because I think it is one of the seminal (!) posts on this site, one that is crucially relevant to where we are at the moment, with the growing ascendancy of fake Alpha and very toxic men who endanger all of us in the world today, not to mention the very world itself and all it’s plants and creatures, e.g. Trump, Putin, Orban, to name just three. An op-ed worth reading for those who can access it appeared today in the New York Times, “The Toxic Male is Ready for his Close-Up,” by Matthew Schmitz, editor of the magazine Compact. I’m going to cut and paste from the article below to give you a sense of Schmitz’s argument.
The article opens as follows:
“Between the first presidential campaign of Donald Trump and the arrival of the #MeToo movement in 2017, progressive activists and social critics increasingly warned us about something called toxic masculinity. The term, vaguely academic in nature, referred to traditional norms of manliness (emotional stoicism, physical aggressiveness) and their potentially dangerous consequences. There were certainly many examples of appalling male behavior, and these were taken as expressions of a deeper problem.
But even as the condemnation of toxic masculinity commanded public assent, there were signs of uncertainty. This was understandable, given that toxic masculinity seemed to encompass a wide range of offenses, from sexual violence to disrespectful manners to mere competitiveness. In the years since, the confusion has only intensified. If the second election of Mr. Trump and the rehabilitation of various “canceled” male figures are any indication, lots of people harbored doubts about whether ostensibly toxic men could, or should, be banished from society.
Among the signs of this ambivalence is a recent spate of erotic thriller movies in which controlling, ambitious, libidinous men appear as objects of sexual fascination. These films — including “Babygirl” (2024), “Fair Play” (2023), “Cat Person” (2023), “Deep Water” (2022), “The Voyeurs” (2021) and “Instinct” (2019) — suggest that today’s sexual politics are trending away from progressive pieties. While the official disapproval of the toxic male persists in these movies, it coexists with an unacknowledged and often perverse attraction to him. All of which speaks, however uncomfortably, to the continuing appeal of toxic masculinity — or perhaps of masculinity as such.”
So, according to Schmitz, the feeling of exclusion, or persecution, that Ben expresses in his post is possibly not entirely accurate today, if we look at how “toxic masculinity” is still with us, as Ben says, but is being newly valorised, albeit ambivalently. The issue is rather: How do we HaPenis-ize the kind of masculinity that Ben embodies and all of us believe in so that it loses its potential toxicity without losing a single hairy chest, a single muscle, a single erect cock, a single homosexual urge from its essential nature.
Schmitz proceeds to discuss the emergence of the femme fatale in the films of the 1940s in which “toxic femininity” became the expression of allure and danger. These women were at first transgressive and a threat, but they were gradually made acceptable in the erotic thrillers of the 1980s and 1990s, although in “Fatal Attraction” (1987) the femme fatale was viewed “with almost maniacal suspicion.” “Today,” Schmitz writes, “the cultural figure that most sharply elicits ambivalence is the toxic male. Whether it’s Harris Dickinson’s dominating intern in “Babygirl,” Alden Ehrenreich’s resentful finance bro in “Fair Play,” Nicholas Braun’s incel stalker in “Cat Person” or Ben Hardy’s pitiless playboy in “The Voyeurs,” this new social type has emerged as the center of interest in the erotic thriller. Of course, the idea of the bad boy — the rebel who is more sexually alluring than the nice guy — is nothing new. What sets apart the toxic male is the reversal of gender roles: He is now the object of desire (subject to what academic theorists might call the female gaze), while his female counterpart retains her agency.”
Schmitz continues: “These films do something more interesting: By depicting a socially disfavored type in exaggerated and often compelling terms, they reveal the contradictions in public morality. They show that we aren’t entirely ready to dispense with toxic males, just as the United States in the 1940s found something appealing in the women who flouted traditional notions of femininity.”
And he concludes: “…like the classic noirs that both punished and romanticized their heroines, these thrillers reveal a gap between what people are supposed to want and what they actually want. St. Augustine once said that for those who lack the spirit, “the presence of the prohibition serves only to increase the desire to sin.” If that is true, the spirit of sexual progressivism may be departing, even as the prohibitions it imposed remain in place.”
Ben, you have said it: We ARE “toxic” in the sense that we fully embrace our masculinity and want to live it to the full. But we also want sexual progressivism of all kinds as long as men can be men in the sense that you, and the HaPenis Project, define masculinity. As you put it:
“Why not suck a Man’s cock? Worship his balls, smell them, rest your face against them. Dive face first into his armpits, let yourself be intoxicated by his scent. Feel his Manhood throb in your mouth, the urethra pound like a piston, feel the head grow bigger and harder… notice his belly heave as his seed explodes into you. By all means, spit it out afterwards. You have already received his most important gift, and that’s his energy. It’s that energy that unlocks something in your brain. “Put some hair on yer chest” is not an expression without origin. – I love you, Brothers.”
I would only add, that all of us men, Alpha to Omega, want the same thing: to be MEN. Those who truly know that they are MEN can never be “toxic” in the negative sense that you are protesting against, or that Schmitz argues is being portrayed ambivalently in contemporary American film. What we are learning on this website is that all of us, those of us with penises at least (sorry, ladies, you can’t be a man without a penis, but those of you who have transitioned unquestionably qualify as men), can embody the masculinity that you love.
I love you, Brother.
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Beautiful daddy, would go on my knees and worship your sucklent cock all the time.
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Daddy Dave,
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It just sounds as if Ben should have spent longer in school and done a bit of reading. The hateful paragraph about “effeminate men and limp-wristed queens” is indicative of stereotypical thinking that does not rise above pub-fuelled banter.
As does the notion that masculinity is toxic, which if you think about it, is the established narrative these days. And trust me, as a gay man I’ve seen that the vile toxicity of those I criticize. But you don’t want to hear about that, nor do you anyone else to.
Even though Seb edited that portion out, which is his prerogative, I stand by every word. They were simply a pushback against said narrative.
And yes I’m very well educated, as well as indoctrinated. Over the years I just shed cast off the latter. Thank you for your thoughts.