One of my masturbation buddies regularly masturbated with another guy for decades, and then they both became widowers within a year of each other. Their sex and affection blossomed, and they are now married. I’ve met up with several widowers, or just older guys who have been relieved of their responsibilities to give sex to their wives, and who have taken the opportunity to enjoy sex with other men. Some have even crossed over to the other side, and their interest in women has all but vanished. My identity is so tied up with “heterosexual normative” that the thought that it might happen to me is terrifying–not the sex or the relationship, but the social pressures. Jack M
