A little while alone in your room
will prove more valuable than anything else
that could ever be given you. – Rumi
In today’s world, finding time to be alone and enjoy your own body is becoming increasingly difficult. Interruptions seem to come from all sides, with an expectation for us to be instantly available. If it’s not incoming text messages or e-mails, the phone is ringing or the Amazon delivery guy is at the door. Someone is always wanting something!
Married men with kids seem to suffer particularly, with a house full of people and noise. As a mature adult, no man wants to revert to the teenage practice of locking himself in the bathroom for a hurried wank. Even should the poor guy manage to get the house to himself briefly, he has to watch the clock for the return of the family and stay alert in case the wife or kids return unexpectedly: always on guard to quickly close down the laptop and pull up his trousers. For more mature men, responsibilities for elderly parents can severely limit their freedom and necessitate keeping the mobile phone switched on at all times. None of these things are conducive to gentle and relaxing solo-pleasure. Unfortunately, no easy solution is at hand. But men need to remember that they are important and deserve all the self-time, self-pleasure and self-love that they can muster. Finding time for yourself is not being selfish. And a man can’t keep on giving to others when his own self-acceptance and expression has been contained. So remember, brothers, you deserve time alone to care for yourself. – Hugh Braceland
In today’s world, finding time to be alone and enjoy your own body is becoming increasingly difficult. Interruptions seem to come from all sides, with an expectation for us to be instantly available. If it’s not incoming text messages or e-mails, the phone is ringing or the Amazon delivery guy is at the door. Someone is always wanting something!
Married men with kids seem to suffer particularly, with a house full of people and noise. As a mature adult, no man wants to revert to the teenage practice of locking himself in the bathroom for a hurried wank. Even should the poor guy manage to get the house to himself briefly, he has to watch the clock for the return of the family and stay alert in case the wife or kids return unexpectedly: always on guard to quickly close down the laptop and pull up his trousers. For more mature men, responsibilities for elderly parents can severely limit their freedom and necessitate keeping the mobile phone switched on at all times. None of these things are conducive to gentle and relaxing solo-pleasure.
Unfortunately, no easy solution is at hand. But men need to remember that they are important and deserve all the self-time, self-pleasure and self-love that they can muster. Finding time for yourself is not being selfish. And a man can’t keep on giving to others when his own self-acceptance and expression has been contained. So remember, brothers, you deserve time alone to care for yourself.
As a mature married man I totally understand what you are saying. I have been able to reach an understanding with my wife that my needs are not limited to satisfying hers (which are there but much less than my own). So we have a don’t ask don’t tell agreement- she knows that I masturbate but just doesn’t want me wanking while she is watching TV or reading. Fortunately for me, she is out of the house pretty often which gives me quality time with my cock.
What she does not know, and would have a hard time understanding, is that my masturbation is entirely focused on cock and homosexuality. This relates to a recent comment I made on another post about the connection, for me, between masturbation and homosexuality. I do find beautiful woman attractive but I have little connection between my cock and that woman. If the images on this page were of a woman it would not induce me to pull out my cock and stroke it. But the images above of a very masculine man with a very large cock are intensely erotic and as I masturbate my cock right now I’m imagining what it would be like to have my hands and mouth on his.
Definitely – self exploration is key and finding self hapenis comes with that.
I’ll second that!
Yum!