I am a gay man, I always have been. Having “sex” with another man is not what makes me identify as gay. We must remember that the majority of men who engage in sexual activity with other men don’t identify as gay. Yes some will be on a journey, the rest are quite happy dipping there toe into the water from time to time and I for one have swam with more than my fair share of them. I enjoy porn, but I rarely watch men having intercourse. Watching it doesn’t turn me on, and I can do with out it physically. I’ve been in long term relationships and not had intercourse with my partner. Only 43% of gay men engage in intercourse. I have friends, some of whom have been in relationships for 20 years +, and they have never had intercourse with a man in their life. So two men having intercourse is neither essential to turning on gay men or exclusive to only turning on gay men.- Nick
