psycho sexualise

So you feel comfortable with your sexuality, you’re certain of who and what, turns you on.  You might be happy being described as hetero, homo, bi, or trans sexual, there again you might prefer the often vague, but equally satisfactory, “I’m just me”.  However for those of you seeking a more specific name for your … Read morepsycho sexualise

I’m straight

I read this article with great interest. I am a man who considers myself to be essentially 100% str8 but I have slept with lots of men and have recently been seeing a man in a full-blown relationship.

When I say I am str8 I mean that I am not physically attracted to men at all. However I am ‘sexually‘ attracted to men. I dumped my last girlfriend (I have usually had two relationships at once – with a man and a woman) because my male lover satisfied me more. I am openly ‘bi-sexual’ but no one understands if I tell them I’m str8 but sometimes prefer gay sex.

For me being adventurous and having relaxed fun with sex is more important than someone’s gender. I will look back here in a short while to see if anyone has identified with this. Thanks for the article.

Hey man i know i can relate in the opposite sense, im commonly referred to as gay cause i guess sometimes i can act that way. But gender doesn’t bother me when it comes to sexual activity. Guys sometimes turn me on but I have never tried with a girl so have no idea what one is capable of in the bedroom…Will

blindfolded, bound, gagged, massaged

Thanks Richard for a wonderful piece of writing, it has given me a hard on just reading it! Like you, I have also always enjoyed being nude with other naked men and had fantasies about having close physical contact with another man. My own particular fetish is to be naked and restrained (bound and gagged) … Read moreblindfolded, bound, gagged, massaged

A community of men like me

There is something about your site that keeps me cumming back and back again. I’ve found something here which is better than viewing pictures of cock (which is what I was searching for when I came here).  It is about finding that there there are other people like me.  A community, A community of men like me.

Thanks. I have always been in str8 relationships but had the occasional sticky moment with guys. Also, COCK fills my fantasy life. I had a brief relationship with a married couple and was able to make love with the guy and taste his spunk. I was never properly fucked by him (just cockhead into ring, no deeper) and I never fucked him.  I think of him often and wish we had taken the plunge. I wrote the following a while ago:I went with a friend to see a few of the films in the 2004 London Lesbian and Gay Film Festival.

They had an effect on me. I laughed and I got aroused and I felt sad and I felt anxiety. There I was in the theatre and I was surrounded by mostly guys and most I knew would be interested in the on-screen sex in more than just an intellectually detached way.  Like me.  So there was also a feeling of belonging too. Certainly, we laughed together as a man.

I realised something about myself. I admitted something to myself. I prefer men.  It’s not that I don’t like women, but I am attracted by men first, women second. Fact.  Period. It’s not like “Oh gosh, I never knew”, more about recognising and owning myself, my behaviour, my interests. It’s about desire and possibility and heartbreak, about hope and fear, about self-esteem and self-acceptance. I don’t feel gay, don’t identify with “gay”, don’t want to be associated with “gay”, yet if I prefer my own sex for sex, what choices do I have? Love the site – long may you prosper.amar

Bob on Amazing Sexual Fantasies

The thing about sexual fantasies is that they should be amazing. No use having a boring fantasy. Enjoy them. It’s a way of processing a variety of curiosities and proclivities. We are men. And what unites all men is our drive to feed our dicks. Across my experience, I have found that sliding mine into … Read moreBob on Amazing Sexual Fantasies

Jack Naked – The Last Miners UK

The Last Miners Documentary follows the workers at Kellingley Colliery in North Yorkshire, the last deep coal mine in Britain. Sheldon, Jonesy, Kev and Jack, shown in the BBC documentary, are enthusiastic about taking a shower with their mates, including washing each others’ cocks after a day down the mines. Private Dicks – Men Exposed … Read moreJack Naked – The Last Miners UK

Straight Men’s Gay Fantasies

I’m only temporarily curious every now and then, about once every couple of months for one night, but as a straight guy i have many sexual fantasies that include men, and sometime i dream about being with many men like about 10 of different races, diff size cocks, all of which i would like to taste as they take turns cumming in my mouth on my face and feel their hot cum squirt all over my naked body and my mouth/throat even my never-been-penetrated asshole.

i want a guy behind me fucking my ass, a guy in front of me with his cock deep in my mouth and a big dick in each of my hands and the rest of the cocks just rubbing any place on my body-so basically i want to have an orgy with about 20 guys, or just be with one guy, and take turns making them orgasm several times each and feel and taste the cock juice after i lick every one of them’s balls then suck,fuck,suck,stroke-stroke,and suck the cum from out their balls- up thru their penis and squirt out thier dicks-hole, thats it, then go into the next room filled with 20 naked women and eat their pussys and fuck them all , then the 20 guys come in the room, they each pick a female and let her suck him off so they all cum inside the womens mouths, then the women come over to me with a mouthfull of semen and we make out for a few minutes till theirs no cum left in their mouths. Jay-T

Straight guys do have fantasies with a homoerotic element, more have them than don’t. That’s why double penetration porn is a thing. That’s why the circle jerk is a thing. Interesting is when you look at PornHub stats about how many men identify as straight, but wander over to the gay videos. There’s one frot video where the comments section summarizes this phenomenon. Jon

How do I know if I’m gay

I am 21 years old and I am what you might call, bi curious. I have only admitted that I was questioning my own sexuality to one person, and it was someone I didn’t know. This is the second time I am admitting it. A question I really want to ask you guys is this…

How do I know if I’m gay…Here are my symptoms:

1) I enjoy anal stimulation from my girlfriend and from myself

2) I jerk off to gay porn, but only bondage or kinky stuff.

3) I have fantasized about being pleased by other males that I know in real life, or males that I dont know..

I think my family and friends might know i’m gay, but I can’t admit it and the fact that they MIGHT know makes me lose my breath…I find it humiliating...I need someone to talk to about this, hopefully someone who has been in the same situation or something close to it please leave a message. Thank you for running this site !

It sounds to me like you are into guys but you really won’t know for sure until you have sex with one. If having a man’s face and possibly cock up your ass doesn’t make your eyes go back in your head and make you feel as if you’d never had sex before, then you might not be gay! But if it does… BINGO! Then you’re a certified cock sucker. Be proud of it. Seriously. You can’t change it. Believe me, I’ve tried. I got married, had kids, stayed away from gyms and men in general. But no matter what I couldn’t run away from the truth. After 14 years, dick finally drew me in and once I had a taste, that was it. You can’t deny who you are and you SHOULDN’T deny it! Find the truth and you’ll find happiness. Find a gay friend to fuck with and see! John in reply to if I’m gay

It’s not about gay, straight or bi, it’s about male sexuality. I don’t have gay sex, I have guy sex. Only a guy can fully understand what another guy needs and feels. I enjoy giving that intense pleasure to other guys and them giving it to me. It is an amazing gift I am happy to share. Neilian in reply to how do I know if I’m gay

If you have fantasies about being with other men, that doesn’t mean you’re completely gay. You might be bi, or you might be bi-curious. I am without a doubt bisexual. I way prefer men over women, but I only consider myself bi because I have had sex with girls in the past.  Justin in reply to how do I know if I’m gay

Bathing the Phallus

Bathing the phallus is a tantric ritual act of purification, preparing it to become the vehicle of the indwelling deity. This may be done as a ritual oblation or by tongue-bathing. 

The essential nature or condition of being a god; divinity.

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Ian’s homo erotic fantasies

I am testimony to a guy who has homo erotic fantasies. I am not gay but this is one fantasy I had: I had never ever felt attracted to men. I had always thought of myself as heterosexual. I had always desired boobs, bums and pussy and in no particular order. But of late, I … Read moreIan’s homo erotic fantasies

hairy belly

I am a normal straight man I have a fetish for older men’s hairy bellies. I don’t want to suck cock or any thing like that, but i love touching another man’s hairy belly as i touch myself very gently. Frank- 27


…how far down his belly to you rub, this idea has made my cock very erect. Tim


I find hairy bellies very hotttt! Always have done. I remember when I was young seeing a guy stretch up to clean the windows and revealing a very hairy treasure trail and belly. Instant boner! Want to mouth and lick it! Dan

To tell us about your hairy belly experiences or to leave a message for Frank or Tim, please leave a reply below

cock rocks!

Well I really like to do it in the shower. I really don’t even start out hard but by the time i’m done, I’m like a rock! I start out by getting in the shower and I get all wet. then I start to touch my self.. Then I grab the conditioner, I start stroking my self and befor long my knees are quivering, my mouth is open and I don’t think i’m going to be able to take it much longer. Then i shoot! all over the the back of the wall like three times and it feels so good.. I feel as if i could fall.. I feel like i want to do it over and over again.. but then I relize i’m late for work.. mITCH

presumed sexual identity

Society is so hypocritical and limiting. The fact that one calls oneself “straight” or whatever doesn’t reveal anything about one’s true fantasies or desires.It’s not that people can truly know every aspect of your being by simply referring to limited concepts like a presumed sexual identity. “I am” this or that is therefore so simplistic, … Read morepresumed sexual identity

palace of dreams and pleasure

Just wanted to say that I like your new and ever expanding website. I know you said a year ago that you had lost the old one in the expanse of the universe…….but you have rebuilt it and it looks different, a little less black background but a lot of good stories and information and every link still leads to a new and exciting place, like a sex maze.

Its obviously by you but its a different shape. It must have been a lot of hard work. I have a question, well more of a thought…..as I grow older I find that I don’t want to have full on sex with men and dont….but I do want to be intimate, touching massage, working on each others jade stem…of course, which is what we do with you and thank the gods for you, you have given me a safe and nurturing place to find such amazing male intimacy. You have provided a great and safe gift for all men. when i was younger I cruised areas when I was horny, not a safe option.

I have used sex lines but they are expensive and again just about raw sex or pure fantasy and not a safe option nor a wise one.

Sometimes I want to touch and intimacy with men more often that once a month in Mr Cox`s palace of dreams and pleasure. I have visited (a place) once and its a real sex place, not very intimate or friendly and lots of unsafe sex happens and older guys like me, are not really that welcome. I stayed 20 minutes and left.

I have stopped watching porn, because your groups have taught me to be more real about sex, so as I am watching porn less my desire for real intimacy is returning and so I have greater need. Plus with no porn, I have started to have really hot dreams, which I have not had for years….amazing. I have put `jerk off/ masturbation groups for men` into search engines, I think they exist in fantasy but not in reality. Maybe San Francisco was the only place they actually happened as a reaction to AIDS…who knows. I also like the `no lips below the hips` idea, even though oral sex is amazing it can be intimidating if expected. Gay Sex groups/leather clubs and the like push away str8/bi/health conscious gay males because of their expectation of full sex or the risk of STIs and the expectation of a young body and a hard cock, and also the big performance thing hides a million anxieties.

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I don’t want to take viagra, I would rather have a head massage. apart from your wonderful group are there groups  guys who meet to touch and wank and relax in the safety of a private home or is this an urban myth…it might be just you? Perhaps the sauna scene is where such intimacy happens, I don’t really know. These are my thoughts and I don’t expect you to solve them or come up with an answer but I thought I would put the thoughts out there as I cant be the only guy, bi/gay/str8 who would just like some mutual masturbation/ erotic touch without the worry that STIs bring, and that it happens in a safe place. I have been in a men`s group for 6 years and occasionally talked about such things but such real sex talk is rare and not always appropriate or what men want in that therapeutic setting.

I know you have talked about having a spirituality group but I think that spritualising sex moves it away from the reality of intimacy.

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The church fears sex so turns it into some kind of intimate god talk but with your pants firmly on, when in reality men want someone to touch them for real, only then do they see the divine. Real divinity cannot be separated from real physicality. As I don’t believe there is such a thing as an eternal soul separate from the body then divinity and sexuality and physical intimacy are the same and interchangeable, the real trinity of love. I think a group of men talking about their desires and anxieties and real needs and fears is missing.

If we talk about it then men may gravitate to meeting that desire and need for intimacy, who knows…..So I have said it and its out there flying around the heavens. so much love power and respect to you mr sex wizard, and mr love men wizard.   Marco del rey

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Real divinity cannot be separated from real physicality. Marco Del Rey explains as I don’t believe there is such a thing as an eternal soul separate from the body then divinity and sexuality and physical intimacy are the same and interchangeable, the real trinity of love.

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