I need my big lingam tantra massage to be a part of a whole body massage and aim to feel rejuvenated rather than relaxed at the end. Getting an erection is part of the process of stimulation but I do not want the proverbial ‘happy ending’ of ejaculation.
Sexual energy is circulated around the whole of my body by the masseur with careful long, firm, massage strokes – some fast, some slow. Stimulation by oiled fingertips under the penis head (sometimes described as ‘squeezing a lemon’) works for me. Pressing the finger tips behind the balls is a wonderful stimulant and can become stronger as the massage progresses. Stimulation of my nipples goes right to the centre of my nervous system but don’t treat nipples like dials on an (old fashioned) radio. Making circular movements around the nipples using the tip of the index finger achieves the effect in a slow, teasing way.