Masculine Sexuality

Dear Mr Cox, I’m writing with a question – but first let me just say that you have what I think is a very enlightened and enlightening website. Personally, I find the references to Sacred Sexuality and the emphasis on masculine adult male sexuality very refreshing. There truly IS a HEALTHY side to it, and I’m so glad to see someone out there who knows that. I cut my teeth on Aleister Crowley, by the way, too.

My question, sir – I saw a quote on your website that said something to the effect of ‘All psychological neuroses can be cured by constant and repeated sexual gratification.’ I’m wondering if you could tell me WHO that quote was from? So I might read some of his thoughts further? I’m an ‘ugly’ dude, with a 200 IQ, and yes, I’ve finally settled on being certifiably nuts and retiring from the world. Too many double standards, stigmas, etc. What is going on REALLY is NOT what they TELL you is going on, and so on. Life is a beauty contest, at the expense of some much deeper things. So anyways, I really think that quote is very true. Not ALL neuroses could be thusly cured, but healthier, realistic views on sex would sure HELP a lot. You know, for example – All the beautiful people running around breeding willy-nilly, but how many of them even KNOW what Sacred Sexuality even is? Or the obsession with beauty? No problem there, but when it turns into the hate of the ugly, then there’s a problem.

I could go on and on – this is the story of my life. But anyways, it would be so much appreciated if you might reply and tell me the name of the Psychoanylist who made the statement about sexual gratification as the cure-all? Bliss Out, RB

Penis Massage Prayer Barefoot Shaman

Penis Massage Prayer Barefoot Shaman

Massaging the penis is a form of prayer. The first Penis Massage I have ever had was by a woman. She took her time. It was wonderful! I felt blessed. I was young. 21 years old, and still called myself bisexual…at 40 I came out as gay…finally.

There is something about having my penis massage by another man. He knows what he is doing. I’ll tell him how to do it the way I like it best. That he takes his time. By the time I massage a man’s penis, I have massaged his entire body. This usually takes around an hour, sometimes 90 minutes. By all this time of pampering, he is usually ready to have his penis massaged. I usually start by massaging around the scrotum (the balls), the perineum (the area just below the scrotum and in front of the anus). Sometimes I’ll penetrate the man using a digit (a fingertip) as an introduction to the prostate massage. I can usually tell how comfortable he is with this type of massage. Some men are not and a digit is all they can handle for now. And that’s O.K. Massaging the penis involves plenty of lube (massage oils and/ or spit). It can involve one hand or two, depending on the size of the man’s shaft. Sometimes I won’t use my hands, just massage his penis with my forearms. The man’s penis has 7 pressure points or chakras. Just like the body. While most men massage just the tip of their penis when they masturbate, I massage the entire man’s shaft, from the base to the tip and around the bulb (the penis head). Every penis is utterly unique and precious, and needs to be treated as such. Every time it is massaged. This cannot be rushed. Massaging a penis is a form of prayer.

Penis Massage Prayer by Barefoot Shaman

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imagination and sex drive

I’m now 40 and have been having the same problem for all my live. I can’t tell about you for sure but it has probably nothing to do with blood circulation (at your age, very unlikely) but with anxiety and sensitivity. For example, I get rock hard when I’m fully relaxed and masturbating alone or if I’m totally comfortable with my sex partner. It can be very tricky in a world that is so cold with people expecting you to be some kind of machine coming out of a porn and when you want to do it in an “hostile” environment like cruising areas, saunas, etc.

Also I noticed that with some men, even if I see them 10 times, I’ll never get hard and with some others, it works the first time. You click or you don’t and some people seem to be psychologically “castrating” in some way. Unfortunately, I’d say that you have to learn coping with it, benzos (anti-anxiety pills) don’t make it better and are a nightmare in the long run, pot opens imagination and sex drive but can worsen anxiety, alcohol is a road leading to flat dick and addiction. I’m sure a lot of gay men go bottom because it’s easier this way if you know what I mean. Personally, I feel alright about it now. I find my sex partners on the Internet and have them coming to my house, a place I am comfortable in and I tend to have long term fuck buddies because the more i know them the more I am at ease with them. One of the key is accepting that we are humans with emotions and sensitivity, that life is not a cheap porn and that you don’t have to be like everybody around. I hope it will get better for you and you’ll find your way. Good luck ! Lovedreamer

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