It’s all about trust, truth and respect for yourself. Don’t be shy. You will be best at sex that involves getting what you really want. Never forget that. If you want to have really good sex, it has to involve you getting what YOU really WANT/NEED.
Practising asking for what you really want/need as this brings greater awareness, communications and sexual pleasure. Every Time you have sex you should begin by having your cock massaged, or should I say worshipped for at least 20 minutes. We have to learn how to very gently whisper how it is we like to have our cocks massaged.