A wank with a Satanist

Hello Seb, I was brought up a catholic and i think that is where i get a lot of my “spiritual” beliefs from. Unlike many i love the “catholic” spirit but as i got older an more significantly as i became more aware of my sexuality my beliefs changed……to cut a long story short……i do like to consider my “spiritual” but not in the theoretical sense. For me spirituality is about connecting the following (which aren’t in any order of priority)

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1.  I believe in the power of masculinity.  I have lived with women but am gay. For me men only need men to survive (except for having children..lol)  I believe that men are superior in terms of their mental, physical, spiritual, emotional and sexual power.  For me it is these characteristics that define masculinity.
2.  Men gain energy and power when they are with other men.  I don’t know if you have noticed but even in a straight pub/bar the atmosphere is very different when it is men only.   By themselves even straight men will play act with each other.  HOWEVER, when a female enters the room (and it only takes one) the atmosphere is very different.
3.  Where there is TRUST between men there is development.  I am a strong believe and very respectful of trust, truth and respect.  These three characteristics are the hardest to build yet are the easiest to destroy.  Where they exist they enable men to experience fulfilment as it enable men to open their minds and to shine a light on the darkest corners of their mind.  I suppose in some ways it makes the impossible possible and enables the perversions to be seen as normal and healthy.
4.  Brotherhood.  I believe we can all learn from and support each other.  I don’t have any brothers so don’t know what it is like to have a natural brother.  However, i appreciate the bonds of support and development that exists between men. I can only fantasise about what that energy is between supportive brothers. I do believe that laws should always be abided by and also believe that where men are consenting and give themselves freely is the best state. I know my beliefs are not mainstream and don’t really fit into any ‘institutionalised’ religion. I have searched and tried a few different religions most of which are Christian. I have recently spoken to a Satanist who did excite and inspire me but i think he was after a wank. I’m not sure if you understand my feelings but I do want to thank you for the opportunity to express them. All the best Mark

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Mark, powerful stuff. A wank with a Satanist, now that sounds like fun. Would it be ok to publish this on one of my websites. I was also brought up as a catholic, and althouth i was never really connected to the instution of it, I think it embedded in me about being a good man, just like Jesus. For me my masculinity is my spirituality. I hope at some stage you might get down to London for one of our meetups. It would be great to get something going in Manchester as well. Dont know if you know the poet Rumi (a 13th-century Persian Muslim poet, jurist, theologian, and Sufi mystic), this is one of his poems.

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The core of masculinity does not derive from being male, nor from the friendliness of those who console Your old grandmother says, “Maybe you shouldn’t go to school.  You look a little pale.” Run when you hear that A father’s stern slaps are better Your bodily soul wants comforting The severe father wants spiritual clarity He scolds, but eventually leads you into the open Pray for a tough instructor to hear and act and stay within you -Rumi

Keep in touch, a big hug, seb cox

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most men are “homosexual”

Most men have a deep-down instinct for male friendships. It’s true most men are “homosexual” in their social relationships. Beside, our base instincts tells us to “compare” to other men, especially in looks, athletic figure, cock size, cut or uncut. We all human beings wish to have more freedom even to the point of touching another man’s body, cock, etc. Perhaps even trying to fuck a man or vice-versa. This does not mean that all males are either bisexual or gay, but there is something there, according to Freud, that makes kinky when we think about other men, especially close male friends. So, having an obsession with gay porno, doesn’t necessarily mean that you are gay. Most of us keep this obsession for gay porno and large dicks hidden in out hearts. We have been repressed by society, Judeo-Christian religion, and our own manliness. Most men would love to feel free and touch their closest male friend’s cock, even some would love to suck it, or vice-versa. We males are not 0ne hundred percent straight. That’s for sure! So, don’t feel bad. Anon

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Men care more what their mates think of their cock than their partner. The University of Victoria in Australia carried out a survey on 738  men. 

The study found majority were happy with their cock size in the bedroom, but most still felt insecure when comparing their manhood to other males. Victoria University Doctorate of Clinical Psychology graduate Dr. Annabel Chan Feng Yi carried out an online study of 738 men about their body image. She found most of the men, aged between 18 and 76, were insecure about their weight, build, and even their penis size. But instead of being concerned over what their girlfriends may think of their physique, many admitted it mattered most what their friends thought.

Dr. Chan said: ‘Men’s pre-occupation with size was rarely to do with pleasing sexual partners or even appearing as a better sexual partner. ‘It was often more about competition with other men.

Many felt most insecure about their size in environments where other men might see them, such as gym change rooms.’ She said those who suffered from ‘locker room syndrome’ were actually content with their size when it came to sexual matters with their partner. But a desire to compete against other males led to an obsession with body building and being muscular – especially among homosexual men who were surveyed.

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She continued: ‘The research demonstrates that societal pressures on body image are certainly not unique to women and that while men share similar body image concerns they often don’t have the appropriate forum to discuss them or adequate professional support to deal with them. ‘There is clearly a need to provide more research-based training for clinicians working in this field and public awareness to de-mystify and de-stigmatising the topic of male body image.’ But while men don’t seem to put too much emphasis on what their partners think of penis size, recent research shows it is still very important to the 21st Century woman. Women were shown several images of the male form with varying combinations of height, shoulder-to-body ratio and, of course, penis length.

Women were then asked to rate the attractiveness of each man – with penis size ending up the most influential factor, according to the research published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS) earlier this year. Researchers at the University of Ottawa, Canada, found that while women’s opinions were influenced by a variety of physical features – tall and broad-shouldered men tended to be favoured over shorter men with bigger waistlines – the size of a man’s penis reigned supreme in the attractiveness stakes.

straight or gay

I distinguish between sexual orientation, romantic orientation, and platonic orientation because many straight guys, for example, have gay sex on the side.  They often say, “It’s only sex.”  To me, they are heteroromantic straight in the romantic sense) and biSEXUAL (bi in the purely sexual sense).  Many homoromantic guys (gay in the romantic sense) are also biSEXUAL (bi in the purely sexual sense). www.threecirclegraph.com/Bisexuality.pdf. Anthony

The Need for Two More Bisexual Categories and the Necessity of Adding a Romantic and Platonic- Orientation Graph Many queers remain uncomfortable with having straight, bi, and gay as the only three sexualities from which to choose self-labeling (excluding transgendered, of course). Just as many bisexuals claim relief upon discovering bisexual as a label, borderzone bis need terms that more accurately describe their feelings toward males and females. Postmodern readers are probably echoing the mantra that “labels don’t matter,” but sometimes categories are needed to make sense of feelings-just as up, down, right, and left continue to be used when these terms mean nothing in outer space. Words are powerful, and so is the absence of words.

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Today, Kinsey 1s, 2s, 4,s and 5s are forced to identify as straight or gay because the term bisexual conjures up the 50/50 stereotype in most people’s minds. “I’m more gay than straight,” a Kinsey 5 male may say, eschewing bisexual as a label altogether because “it doesn’t exactly describe what I am.” The problem is that this forces him to ignore his opposite-sex attraction because he lacks a label with which to verbalize his feelings. Of course, studies on the effects of such repression are lacking, but I’ve developed a three-circle diagram that, if accepted by enough bisexuals, may come to symbolize bisexuality in the coming decades. The diagram is as follows:   The largest circle on the left represents summer and heterosexuality; the medium-sized circle in the middle represents fall and bisexuality; and the smallest circle on the right represents winter and homosexuality. Inside the straight circle, there is a picture of summer-symbolic for the simultaneous privilege and oppression of heterosexuality; the bi circle has a picture of fall-symbolic of bisexuality as a transitional season, as bisexuality is sometimes a transition to or from homosexuality, yet permanent in that fall returns every year; and the gay circle has a picture of winter-symbolic of gayness as both snowy beautiful, yet very cold and alienating for many gays. The bi circle is larger than the gay circle and smaller than the straight circle because, I believe, more people will identify as bi in the future than as gay, yet most people will continue to identify as straight-perhaps 65% of the population, vs. 17% bi and 10% gay.muscles is worked during sex.

The straight and gay circles intermesh slightly into the bi circle, creating a gray area between the straight and bi circle and between the bi and gay circle. People falling inside these gray areas need names, as the lack of terms causes confusion for people trying to verbalize their sexuality beyond the simple straight/bi/gay trichotomy.Two terms could be used to describe these borderzone bisexuals (remember it’s a zone where the circles intermesh, not the Kinsey line). The terms are:

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Heterosexual . Unisexual . Bisexual . Trisexual . Homosexual Heterosexual, . . . being in Zone 0 (the straight circle), and sexually attracted to the same sex 0/4 of the time in FREQUENCY Unisexual, . . . being in Zone 1 (the zone where the straight and bi circles intermesh slightly), and sexually attracted to the same sex ¼ of the time in FREQUENCY Bisexual, . . . being in Zone 2 (the bi circle), plus the present-day “50/50” definition with regard to FREQUENCY Trisexual, . . . being in Zone 3 (the zone where the bi and gay circles intermesh slightly), sexually attracted to the same sex ¾ of the time in FREQUENCY Homosexual, . . . being in Zone 4 (the gay circle), and sexually attracted to the same-sex 4/4 in FREQUENCY While the Kinsey continuum places one’s orientation on a horizontal line, the three circles allow people to place their orientation horizontally and vertically.

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A 50/50 bisexual, for example, may be near the top of Zone 2, near the bottom, or near the center-depending on his/her mood on a given day. That is why high-quality photographs fill the three circles, as pictures have a thousand places that people can identify with (e.g., the top of a tree on one’s wedding day vs. the ground on a “blue” day). The three circles, in short, are three-dimensional vis-à-vis the two-dimensional Kinsey scale. Moreover, the circles include a hovering moon on the upper-right-hand side, a moon that should transgendered people so decide, can come to symbolize their sexuality. (My essay “Borderzone Bisexuals” goes more deeply into this.)

manhood massaged solo7The adding of two labels doesn’t have to mean the dissecting of bisexuality as a political movement, for bisexual can continue to be an umbrella term for all bisexuals. The categories unisexual and trisexual, however, would presumably be employed by borderzoners on a more personal level.

The Need for a Sexual, Romantic, and Platonic Orientation Graph

In Bisexuality and the Eroticism of Everyday Life (1998), Marjorie Garber wrote that nobody has significantly altered the Kinsey scale since 1948. As of today, laypeople and sexologists continue to talk about the sexual-orientation scale when referring not just to sex, but to love, romance, and friendship. In their rush away from categories, they have lumped varying and often contradictory facets of human relationships into one scale. This needs serious remedying if bisexuality-and human relationships-are to be understood three dimensionally.

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For better or worse, males often divorce sex and romance. A straight-identified male, for example, may say, “I’m not gay! I just love cocks in my mouth.” What he means is that although he enjoys sex with males, he isn’t romantically attracted to them. The gays are the “poofs” and “fairies” because they are homoromantic, wanting more than just to “beat off their meat” or “fool around.” Straight men, of course, don’t describe themselves as heteroromantic (romantically interested in the opposite sex), but if society ever comes to terms with admitting everyone’s innate bisexuality, sexual politics will probably revolve around people’s romantic orientation. In short, I propose three, different circle graphs (all following the same zone principles outlined in Part I of this article).

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1.Sexual-Orientation Circle Graph (measures a person’s sexual attraction to a given sex)

Heterosexual . Unisexual . Bisexual . Trisexual . Homosexual

(The sexual-orientation graph is explained in Part I of this essay.)

2. Romantic-Orientation Circle Graph (measures a person’s romantic attraction to a given sex)

Heteroromantic . Uniromantic . Biromantic . Triromantic . Homoromantic Heteroromantic . . . being in Zone 0 (the straight circle), and romantically interested in the same sex 0/4 in FREQUENCY Uniromantic . . . being in Zone 1 (the zone where the straight and bi circles intermesh slightly), and romantically interested in the same sex 1/4 in FREQUENCY Biromantic . . . being in Zone 2 (the bi circle), plus the present-day “50/50” definition with regard to FREQUENCY Triromantic . . . being in Zone 3 (the zone where the bi and gay circles intermesh slightly), and romantically interested in the same sex 3/4 in FREQUENCY Homoromantic . . . being in Zone 4 (the gay circle), and romantically interested in the same sex 4/4 in FREQUENCY (E.g. Presumably, most males today are bisexual and heteroromantic.)

3. Platonic-Orientation Circle Graph (measures a person’s platonic attraction to a given sex)

Heteroplatonic . Uniplatonic . Biplatonic . Triplatonic .Homoplatonic Heteroplatonic . . . being in Zone 0 (the straight circle), and platonically interested in the same sex 0/4 in FREQUENCY. (This is something that most gay males, presumably, are guilty of, as their same-sex friendships often turn into sexual relationships Uniplatonic . . . being in Zone 1 (the zone where the straight and bi circles intermesh slightly), and platonically interested in the same sex 1/4 in FREQUENCY Biplatonic . . . being in Zone 2 (the bi circle), plus the present-day “50/50” definition with regard to FREQUENCY transferred to the platonic orientation discussion Triplatonic . . . being in Zone 3 (the zone where the bi and gay circles intermesh slightly), and platonically interested in the same sex 3/4 in FREQUENCY Homoplatonic . . . being in Zone 4 (the gay circle), and platonically interested in the same sex 4/4 in For those confused by the platonic orientation graph, it is the inverse of the sexual and romantic orientation graph. People who are gay in the sexual and romantic sense are straight in the platonic sense and people who are straight in the sexual and romantic arena are “gay” in the platonic sense-for it seems that gays “bond” platonically with the opposite sex, while straights bond platonically with the same sex (e.g., homosocial bonds). If one follows Billy Crystal’s line in When Harry Met Sally (1989), most straight men cannot remain pure friends with women because females’ sexual attractiveness tempts men to make sexual advances on them, destroying any chance of men and women being “just friends.” Men like Crystal’s character would, presumably, be homoplatonic (only capable of forming platonic relationships with males) and heteroromantic (romantically interested in the opposite sex). The possibilities for sexual identification are endless, and because of this, the sexual-orientation circle graph will most likely remain the focus of political organizing for many decades. In the far future, however, it is likely that researchers will have more concepts with which to describe the diversity of human relationships. With enough sophistication, the masses may start talking about sexual, romantic, and platonic orientations by the middle and latter part of the 21st century. Bisexuals and transgendered people, more than any other sexual minority, are the most likely candidates to adopt the three-circle graphs because they are not mired in the either/or paradigm of heterosexuals and homosexuals.

exposing masculinity

The work of photographer Blake Little is widely recognized due to its ability to capture the energy of masculinity of the personality of the his photographs. In addition to his commercial work, Little has released three fantastic books with photographs that capture the naturalness of the human male in a simple, but exciting. His first book, Dichotomy, in 1997 presented men in which feelings such as love, desire, frustration, anger and other charmingly demonstrated. His second book is The Company of Men, a beautiful collection of photographs released in 2011 and in which Little stressed even more simplicity and masculinity to capture men of pure form and in scenarios that represent more closely. The result was a fascinating collection.

In September 2013, the photographer has released amazing Manifest, where the compositions have become even more raw, exposing masculinity even more freely, which makes each photo mesmerising for all who admire the masculine male.

the first openly gay man to receive a Nobel Prize

French writer André Gide (1869-1951) was the first openly gay man to receive a Nobel Prize, for literature in 1947. Gide’s first publication was a novella in 1891, when he was twenty-two. Great works followed, The Immoralist (1902) and Strait Is the Gate (1909). The publication of Corydon (1920), in praise of homosexuality, sent his reputation into a nosedive, and … Read morethe first openly gay man to receive a Nobel Prize

ideas about homosexual love

THIS moment yearning and thoughtful sitting alone,It seems to me there are other men in other lands yearning andthoughtful,It seems to me I can look over and behold them in Germany,Italy, France, Spain,Or far, far away, in China, or in Russia or Japan, talking otherdialects,And it seems to me if I could know those men … Read moreideas about homosexual love

highly sexual

i was reading a discussion on some website discussing the strange occurrence of cannabis smokers wanting to worship cock when high. One bloke wrote ‘I’m quite a hardcore pothead, I feel very heterosexual, i am very attracted to girls and not at all to men when sober, but when I get high I just want to gently touch a big cock. He asked if anyone else happened to have the same effects? He said that it was just curiosity, not that it really bothers him since he was still attracted to girls while high, but that he sometimes feel weirded by male friends with whom he don’t usually feel attracted to. He was wondering if he was bisexual or highly sexual. I personally think he is neithert. I’ve spend a couple of hours thinking about a word that would describe a man cannabis smokers wanting to worship cock when high. I had to dig deep into my ancient knowledge, butt, I did find one, TANTRICK, (as in Mouth Congress)

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defined sexuality

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You are not born with a defined sexuality. It comes to you, unconsciously during your childhood. Your pointed in a a certain direction, but it does not define it. It leaves you with choices which you may, or may not choose to acknowledge.

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Events from the past can be stored in the very prostate of your mind and may surface at any time. You are an adult, you have free will. What you do with these choices is up to you. Some choose homosexual relationships as they find this leads to an internal balance, an inner calmness. There may have been an absence of male love during your childhood so as an adult you can balance that. Satisfying yourself sexually is the key that opens the door to your heart’s desire. While you may be attracted to sex with someone of the opposite gender, as what is opposite can be balancing. But, even a slight change in your sexual energy can lead to a different desire. If this pushes you towards a different experience that fulfills your particular needs at that time, that is the very essence of you.

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…i’ve come again like a new year to crash the gate of this old prison i’ve come again to break the teeth and claws of this man-eating monster we call life i’ve come again to puncture the glory of the cosmos who mercilessly destroys humans i am the falcon hunting down the birds of black … Read morehomosexuals anonymous

completely natural

To begin with, you are not entirely correct in stating that “natural” is “as nature intended.” “Natural” is in fact “anything that occurs in the natural world.” Homosexual relationships, and sex, are therefore entirely natural. You can try to dispute this if you wish, but my point has much more merit than yours, and furthermore… … Read morecompletely natural

Walt Whitman

Dear Seb: Finding your site, I found myself experiencing my new level, so I thought, “Hmmmm…..What can I give him in return?” Do you know the great American poet Walt Whitman? In a poem he describes a man’s body as “Plumb in the uprights and braced in the beam,” which is good for long-lived barns … Read moreWalt Whitman

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