It’s certainly not what you would discuss with your mates down the pub on a Saturday night. But in reality it’s a lot more common than most men care to admit. For most men it’s something they think of while masturbating, or having sex. It remains a very private fantasy Others will experiment; they will occasionally feel a real need to have physical contact with another man, or simply to touch another man’s cock. Some men are very disturbed by this tiny part of their sexuality and it becomes a very big issue for them.
These men often become very loud, very homophobic. So the next time you hear some guy shouting about “queers” and all that, don’t be too harsh on him just smile and politely tell him you understand what his problem is. We are told at adolescence that it’s NORMAL to have fantasies about other blokes while wanking. Many of us will have played the jerk-off games with other young men while still at school. Our teenage years are a time of great curiosity. We hang around in gangs. The mates we would like to be similar to will appear more attractive, and at a time of life when everything is interesting and horny, this emotion can manifest itself as a lovely stiff cock.
So if it’s ok when we are teenagers, what’s wrong with it when we are older? Who sets the fucking agenda anyway! . Just look at any straight porn, its all very cock focused. When showering after the gym or swimming, or even when having a piss in a public toilet we all have a little peep. Even though there may not be any desire for actual contact it’s as if the mind has taken a photo of that “erotic image” and can flash back to have another look at any time. We may wonder about what type of sex the owner of the “image” enjoys. We may get sexually aroused thinking about him shagging his wife. That doesn’t mean we want to have a gay relationship with him, even though just before you “cumm” you think about putting his cock in your mouth. bi/ seb cox