Greetings Seb! I’ve read your email several times and finally found time to respond. There are two things related to aromas and their impact on man to man sex that I’d like to share. The first is a bit of a puzzle to me, and I’ve done some research in an attempt to understand the source. After some effort I believe I have found the answer. Here’s the situation: I have a best friend of nearly eight years, and we met through a mutual friend. We started off having a mutual interest in man-to-man sex. At first his newness was a turn on and attraction to me, along with the fact that he is extraordinarily handsome. But after a while I began to notice something rather unique. When we would greet in private we would hug one another, and I found myself wanting to breath deeply and almost “sniff” him around the forehead and hairline. When I did, I would get an instant erection. As we would engage in sex I noticed that I would get extremely turned on when we were face to face or when I had my face around his hair or hairline. Being eternally curious about things, it made me take notice and I began my research. I’ve never had this response with another guy. I had heard about pheromones but had little insight into the impact of them.
What I discovered in my research was that some people have stronger and more potent pheromones than others. I have deduced that this is the situation with my best friend. Just breathing in his natural man-smell gives me a tremendous hardon. I have to be careful not to let it happen in the wrong setting (we are both bi, and I’m married). I’ve noticed how other people react to my best friend as well. Occasionally when we’re out with other friends and spouses, he will invite one of the ladies to dance. They seem to get clingy to him and to turn on to him. While my wife is totally unaware of his and my private relationship, she has said how attractive he is and there is “something mysterious” about how attractive he can be. I’ve noticed women dancing with him who suddenly began getting sexual with him, and one lady actually reached down and rubbed his crotch while dancing with him. So, all of that being said, I believe he exudes very strong pheromones. There isn’t a discernable smell about him, other than a clean “just-showered” smell. But I have tested my response, and know that if I want to get rock hard all I have to do is smell around his hairline, in front or back of his head or around his ears, and I am ready to fuck. The second thing I’ve notice relative to sex and aroma is somewhat akin to the Pavlov dog experiments. My best friend and I use a particular kind of oily lubricant when we’re having sex. After having used it for a while, just the smell of it now will give me an erection. I’ve used it during the winter for dry skin, and when I start applying it after a shower I get an erection from the smell. (Along with wildly stimulating daydreams about him.) I’m not sure what your thoughts were about the topic, and I hope you find this somewhat helpful. If you would like further details, Warmest Regards, A devoted reader! D