Every man should know exactly what his prostate feels like and he should check it at least twice a week. Make sure you have very short nails if you are going to use your fingers as well. The most important thing is that you must be relaxed and see yourself as a tantric sex god. Put on your favorite CD, take a nice hot bath, after which you should continue to relax yourself by dancing around to the music, drinking champagne and gently moistening yourself. Remember that the muscles around you man’s arse (sphincter) will not allow things to pass through easily unless you relax and take it slow. Let say for example your husband is lying on his back, spread his legs and lie on top of him so he ran reach your clit with his tongue. Place the tip of your tongue on the ring of his arse and lick in a downward circular motion 81 times to the right and then 81 to the left. Put a huge amount of honey on your tongue and slowly put the honey into your husband’s arse. Repeat this at least 81 times. His arse should be really dripping wet of honey. Every time you put more honey you should go slightly further inside with your tongue, say 1/4 of an inch each time. Eventually you will reach like a nodule about the shape of a butter bean, that’s your husband’s prostate. Relax and just leave your tongue there forever. At the same time you should tickle his perineum (the area between his arse and balls). It’s this combination of rubbing the prostate internally and externally that makes this a pleasurable experience for men. Every man is different so listen to his responses, but most importantly talk to him. Tell him he has a magnificent arse, tell him how much you want to get your tongue inside. Ask him what he likes, and how he likes it.
The purpose of this ritual is to take him and you on a journey. Forget about everything and just connect to his prostate. You should both breathe deeply together. Get him to lick your clit the way he wants you to flutter his prostate. Most men really love their cock sucked as they are having their prostate celebration. When you feel he is close to ejaculation. Remove your tongue and breathe deeply on the little lips of his arsehole. Huge big deep deep breaths. Remember the more you breathe the more he feels, magnificant. Sliding your tongue back deeper inside is of course optional, but highly recommended. Many straight men are a bit scared of anal pleasure as they associate it with “being Gay” but for many others it’s part of what they do sexually and are quite happy to have their wife put on a big strap-on dildo, and fuck them. If you feel he would like to be intimate with another man, you need to start putting that on the agenda. When he is fucking you put a lubed finger up his arse and tell him you would love him to recieve as much pleasure in his ass as he give you in your beautiful cunt, tell him you would like to see him just touch another man’s cock. Tell him your fantasies, and keep telling him your fantasies, take him on a big ride. Maybe you need to be abit of a dominatrix. Give him permission to give himself permission and once he has had a dabble he will be better at sex. He will get an energy from that experience that will make him a better man, and a better fucker and believe me you will enjoy the benefits. I wish you lots of luck and love on your sacred journey, Seb Cox