Applying the cock ring correctly

Dear Seb__I’ve been a big admirer of your work, so I wanted to contribute a few thoughts on cock rings, for your article:

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• On one level, you wear a cock ring to maintain your erection by regulating blood flow. But when I put on a cock ring, I feel like am both physically and spiritually amplifying my “cock-mind”— intensifying the pleasure and pride of having a cock.  It’s almost like I’m putting a ring on my cock to really feel married to it.
• I like silicon more, nowadays, because it feels friendlier. In general, I have been moving away from harder, penetrative scenes, toward softer, more “cooperative” ones. Cumming soft, after intense play (sometimes including prostate massage), is my new favorite thing— and I find silicon rings work better for those circumstances. For me, metal cock rings have always been more for public play— bars, sex clubs, and such.

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• Size is crucial for the same reason a tailored suit is: every cock, like every body, is unique. The right size promotes optimum awareness without being overly intrusive or restrictive.
• Applying the cock ring correctly means focusing your and your partner’s attention effectively onto the “theater of cock”– which may be small in size, compared with the entire human body, but expansive in scale.  In other words, donning a cock ring puts everyone on alert that our cocks are now the biggest and most important things in the room.
• For a long time now I have been shaving my cock and trimming my pubic area, for just this reason: to focus on the theater of cock.  Of course, cock rings— especially the silicon kind— are easier to use in a trimmed and shaved area.

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• It’s always nice then you meet someone with an entire collection of cock-rings.  Sharing them become a lovely extension of sexual hospitality. A sexual host of true generosity might even have several on hand to give as souvenirs— the way Martha Stewart-type hostesses stock guest bathrooms with new toothbrushes that guests can take away. I hope some of this might be helpful.  I am wishing you the best for your article and, as always, your amazing work. Best, __Steve

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  1. Seb: Actually, I am new to cock rings — I bought my first about 18 months ago. I had viewed pictures of guys wearing them and became curious and decided to investigate. I contacted web-sites and others to learn what I could about cock rings. I found a wealth of information. While there are claims that cock rings not only help you maintain an erection but will also make you larger, I believe these claims are so much hype. I believe the real reason men adorn them selves with cock rings is their fondness for their cocks and their wish to enhance their appearance (for themselves and for others). They certainly are eye-catchers and certain varieties can enhance a hard cock’s appearance. They are “sexy.” They are erotic to put on. If they are tight enough they will help maintain an erection (but after an orgasm you will still detumesce, regardless). Certainly they help hold blood in the corpus cavernosa and will make one as hard as he can get, and increase girth slightly, and certainly turn a Caucasian’s cock reddish or darker than it’s natural hue. Wearing one during non sexual activity (if it fits properly) will enable a guy to be semi hard. But wearing one this tight is not recommended for more than several hours. Otherwise one can damage the structure of the penis and may reduce their ability to achieve an erection at all. In summation I believe one wears a cock ring mostly to please themselves, and because there is a pleasing sensation when one encircles your cock and balls. Even when clothed, knowing it is there makes you feel sexy. Cock rings come in many, many varieties, materials and augmented to do different things. They come in leather, latex, rubber, silicon, metal, and fabric. They can be pain or highly stylized or decorated. There are cock cages — a series of rings that encircle the length of the cock. There are leather cock rights with snaps (one to five) for multiple fit and to adjust tightness. Others have Velcro closures. Some are studded (some smooth as buttons, others like spikes). Most of these circle the cock and balls, These tend to push the balls forward for show and tell. Some have multiple or combination rings — one circling the cock and balls and the other circling the base of the cock. Some have “ball splitter or separator” straps. There are harnesses that come with a series of metal or leather rights that act as a cage for the cock and balls. Others come with metal knobs or rings to apply pressure at various points along the shaft or to the groove just behind the head. There are even harnesses that combine metal cock rings and rings to circle and others to open your anus. Latex and rubber rings come in sizes and one needs to be careful when wearing these. One may feel snug and comfortable when you first put it on, but can really be too tight and can stop circulation all together. I would not recommend these. If worn they should be worn only for short intervals. It is similar to putting a rubber band (gum band) around your cock or around your cock and balls, or tying a string or cord around your cock or cock and balls. You don’t want to leave them there very long. There are fabric and latex rings that are like lassos or nooses. One simply slips the ring over the cock (or cock and balls) and pulls the two ends to tight the “noose.” The tension is easily adjusted. Some leather, latex, and rubber rings come with small bullet-type vibrators attached. (sometimes two — one to be fitted on top and the other on under side when the ring is worn) The vibrator on the underside can stimulate the perineum. Bis and straights can use the vibrator on the top to stimulate the clitoris of a woman. Metal cock rings are available to circle the cock and balls. Others have a combination of rings (one to circle the cock and balls, and another to circle the base of the shaft and perhaps others to just circle the balls or to separate them. There are also metal rings to place just behind the head of the cock.

    Sizing is very important when wearing a metal cock ring as they are NOT adjustable. You don’t want one to fall off when you are not hard or become too tight when you are. I took two kinds measurements — a series when hard and another series when soft. I did each series three times (on different days) and took the average of the three days of measurements. To measure, I used a piece of string to circle the cock and balls snugly and mark the place where the string meets. Then measure the length of the between the two marks. I divided this by 3.14 to get the circumference. I also measured the base of my shaft, in the middle and just behind the head in the same manner. As I said I did this both hard and soft. and added the average of the soft measure to the average of the hard measures and divided by two. This gave me the optimum size to buy. NOT too loose and NOT to tight. Metal cock rings should not be worn for long periods. They can become chafe and be uncomfortable. Leather cock rings are easy to apply. They simply snap in place. Buy a soft leather. They are comfortable and, adjusted properly, can be worn continuously. To put on a metal cock ring, one must not be hard. First insert one ball through the ring and then the second. Have them both through the ring before bending the flaccid penis and inserting it into the ring. Pull the ring up firmly to the body and make sure the ball hang comfortably through the ring. You will probably become hard immediately. It can male it easier if you sprinkle talcum power on your balls and cock before putting on the ring. (Another way to determine what size metal ring to buy is to take a simple measurement as described before and then go to a hardware store and purchase inexpensive rubber 0-rings –gaskets — in several size increments above and below the result of your measurement. Try wearing each and see which is the most comfortable and does what you want it to do. Then buy this size metal ring.)

    New on the scene is another device, called a BunnG (you can find it on the Internet). You put your legs through soft but firm latex loops and place your cock and balls through a loose latex ring. The loops are pulled up over the hips and a thong caresses the crevice between your ass cheeks. The ring surrounding your cock and balls pulls them forward greatly enhancing their appearance. A really comfortable device to adorn your best asset. Go to several of the web sites for sex toys you can locate on the Internet; click on male items or cock rings. You will see a wide variety of styles, materials and add-ons to adorn your proud cock Dorje

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